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Amy Osborne Vanderbilt (July 22, 1908 – December 27, 1974) was an American authority on etiquette. In 1952 she published the best-selling book Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette.[1] The book, later retitled Amy Vanderbilt's Etiquette, has been updated and is still in circulation. Its longtime popularity has led to it being considered a standard of etiquette writing.

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She is also the author or collector of cooking materials, including the 1961 book Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Cook Book illustrated by Andy Warhol. This cookbook's illustrations are attributed to "Andrew Warhol", and predate Andy Warhol's first New York solo pop art exhibition. His illustrations are simple line drawings in pen and ink.

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Amy Vanderbilt claimed descent from Jan Aertson van der Bilt, who immigrated to the Dutch colony of New Netherland in 1650 and was also the ancestor of Commodore Cornelius Vanderbilt, the 19th-century railroad magnate and millionaire, a distant cousin of Amy's.[1]

She was born in Staten Island, the daughter of Joseph Mortimer Vanderbilt, an insurance broker, and Mary Estelle Brooks Vanderbilt, and worked as a part-time reporter for the Staten Island Advance when she was 16 while attending Curtis High School.[1][2] She was educated in Switzerland and at the Packer Collegiate Institute in Brooklyn before attending New York University. She worked in advertising and public relations, and published her book after five years of research. From 1954 to 1960, she hosted the television program It's in Good Taste and from 1960 to 1962, she hosted the radio program The Right Thing to Do. She also worked as a consultant for several agencies and organizations, including the U.S. Department of State.

Vanderbilt was married four times and divorced three times. From 1929 to 1932, she was married to Robert S. Brinkerhoff. In 1935, she married Morton G. Clark. In 1945, she married Hans Knopf, a noted magazine photographer. In 1968, she married Curtis B. Kellar, a lawyer for Mobil Oil. Vanderbilt had three sons: Lincoln Gill Clark, Paul Vanderbilt Knopf, and Stephen John Knopf.[1][3][4]

On December 27, 1974, she died from multiple fractures of the skull after falling or jumping from a second-floor window in her townhouse at 438 East 87th Street in New York.[1][5] It remains unclear whether her fall was accidental (perhaps due to her hypertension medication, which friends and relatives said caused severe dizzy spells) or suicide. She was buried at the Cemetery of the Evergreens in Brooklyn, New York.

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Amy Vanderbilt (July 22, 1908 – December 27, 1974) was an American author, journalist, and etiquette authority best known for her bestselling guide Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette, which established her as a leading voice on social manners in mid-20th-century America. Born in , New York, to Joseph Mortimer Vanderbilt and Mary Estelle Brooks Vanderbilt, she was a distant relative of the railroad magnate and descended from early Dutch settlers in the region. Educated at local schools including Public School 30, , and , as well as New York University's School of Journalism and through studies abroad, Vanderbilt began her career in journalism at age 16 as a freelance reporter for the . She later worked as a columnist for the International News Service in the 1930s and contributed articles to publications such as and . After five years of research, Vanderbilt published Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette in 1952, a comprehensive 700-page volume that sold millions of copies and succeeded Emily Post's works as the definitive guide to modern social conduct, covering topics from to managing household staff. The book was revised multiple times and emphasized as an expression of kindness amid societal changes. In 1954, she launched a syndicated column, "Amy Vanderbilt's ," which appeared in over 100 papers and reached more than 40 million readers weekly until 1968, later continuing under the Syndicate. Vanderbilt also hosted the television program It's in Good Taste from 1954 to 1960 and a radio show, , from 1960 to 1962, further popularizing her advice on gracious living. Married four times—to Robert S. Brinkerhoff (1929), Morton G. Clark (1935), Hans Knopf (1945), and Curtis B. Kellar (1968)—Vanderbilt had three sons: Lincoln Gill Clark, Paul Vanderbilt Knopf, and Stephen John Knopf. She died on December 27, 1974, at age 66, after falling from a second-story window of her apartment, the circumstances of which were not immediately clear. Throughout her career, Vanderbilt's work adapted traditional to contemporary life, influencing American social norms during a period of rapid cultural shifts.

Early Life and Education

Birth and Family Background

Amy Vanderbilt was born on July 22, 1908, in Staten Island, New York City. She was the daughter of Joseph Mortimer Vanderbilt, an insurance broker, and Mary Estelle Brooks Vanderbilt. The family resided in New York and maintained a modest middle-class status, distinct from the prominent wealthy branch of the Vanderbilt lineage. Vanderbilt claimed descent from Jan Aertson van der Bilt, a 17th-century Dutch settler who arrived in America around 1650 and served as a common ancestor to the broader , including the railroad magnate ; however, her line did not connect to the fortunes amassed by Cornelius and his immediate descendants. This heritage, combined with her family's everyday social environment in urban New York, provided early exposure to the norms and expectations of American middle-class life.

Formal Education

Vanderbilt attended Public School 30 in for her elementary education. She began her at in , New York, where she developed an early interest in writing by working as a part-time society and feature reporter for the at age 16. This experience laid the groundwork for her future pursuits in and public communication. She continued her secondary education at the in , New York, a prestigious institution known for its rigorous academic programs. Following this, Vanderbilt traveled to for further studies, immersing herself in European educational traditions and focusing on at the Institute Heubi in . This international experience broadened her perspective on domestic arts and social customs. Upon returning to the , Vanderbilt enrolled at , where she pursued studies in for two years. Her coursework emphasized reporting and communication skills, aligning with her emerging career aspirations in media and . This phase of her education equipped her with practical tools for articulating social norms and graces effectively.

Professional Career

Early Journalism and Public Relations

Vanderbilt began her professional career in journalism at the age of 16, securing a part-time position as a reporter for the Staten Island Advance in 1924 while still attending Curtis High School. Initially working as a freelance contributor, she covered society and feature stories, which allowed her to develop foundational reporting skills alongside her education. By 1927, she had transitioned to a full-time role as a social reporter for the same publication, where she also handled publicity duties, such as serving as publicist for local poet Edwin Markham. In the late 1920s, following two years of journalism studies at , Vanderbilt moved to full-time roles in New York City's advertising sector. She worked as an for advertising agencies and took on responsibilities for manufacturing firms, managing client communications and coordinating promotional events. These positions sharpened her abilities in interpersonal relations and media outreach, laying the groundwork for her later professional endeavors. During the 1930s and 1940s, Vanderbilt engaged in a period of freelance writing and minor assignments, including serving as business manager for the The American Spectator. She also worked as a for the International News Service during the 1930s. She established and led her own firm for approximately 15 years, handling client accounts and building connections within the publishing industry. This phase of varied work enabled her to cultivate a broad network of contacts in media and business, enhancing her expertise in communication strategies.

Development as Etiquette Authority

In the late , Doubleday approached Amy Vanderbilt to author a comprehensive on , drawing on her prior experience in that had honed her understanding of . She accepted the invitation and dedicated approximately five years to intensive research, retreating to her farm in , to consult dozens of experts on American and international manners. This exhaustive effort culminated in the publication of Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette, a 700-page volume that emphasized gracious living through practical guidance rather than inflexible traditions. The book quickly achieved best-seller status, selling millions of copies and establishing Vanderbilt as a leading authority on modern . It underwent multiple revisions to adapt to evolving social norms, with later editions retitled Amy Vanderbilt's to underscore its focus on contemporary, adaptable advice for everyday interactions. Building on the book's success, Vanderbilt launched a syndicated etiquette column in 1954 through United Features Syndicate, which appeared in more than 100 newspapers across the and abroad. The column, offering accessible insights into manners and social conduct, reached an estimated audience of over 40 million readers weekly until 1968, when she transitioned to the Syndicate, further solidifying her national prominence.

Media Appearances and Consulting

Vanderbilt expanded her influence beyond print media following the success of her 1952 book Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of , which propelled her into television as the host of It's in Good Taste from 1954 to 1960. In this program, she offered practical tips in a warm, relatable format designed for everyday viewers, focusing on social graces within the home and community settings. The show highlighted her approachable style, blending traditional manners with modern American life. Transitioning to audio, Vanderbilt launched the nationally syndicated radio program The Right Thing to Do in 1960, which ran until 1962 and featured daily advice segments on interpersonal conduct and social dilemmas. These broadcasts allowed her to reach a broader audience across the United States, providing concise guidance on topics ranging from personal correspondence to public behavior. In parallel with her media roles, Vanderbilt served as an official etiquette consultant to the U.S. Department of State during the 1950s and 1960s, offering expertise on diplomatic protocol and cross-cultural manners to support . Her advisory work extended to other organizations, underscoring her authority in formal and global contexts. She also made frequent guest appearances on talk shows, such as , and delivered lectures that reinforced her status as a leading voice on gracious living.

Personal Life

Marriages and Relationships

Amy Vanderbilt's personal life was marked by four marriages, the first three of which ended in divorce. Her first marriage, to Robert S. Brinkerhoff, took place in 1929 and concluded in divorce in 1932. In 1935, she entered a brief second marriage to Morton G. Clark, about which limited public details are available; the union ended in divorce shortly thereafter. Vanderbilt's third marriage was to Hans Knopf, a photo-journalist, in 1945; it lasted until the 1960s and produced two sons. Her fourth and final marriage, to Curtis B. Kellar, a at Oil, occurred in 1968 and provided stability in her later years, continuing until her death in 1974.

Children and Immediate Family

Amy Vanderbilt had three sons from her second and third marriages. Lincoln Gill Clark was born during her marriage to Morton G. Clark. Paul Vanderbilt Knopf and Stephen John Knopf were born during her marriage to Hans Knopf. In her later years, Vanderbilt lived with her family in a four-story at 438 East 87th Street in Manhattan's , where she balanced her demanding career in , , and consulting with family responsibilities. By the time of her death in 1974, her youngest son, Stephen John Knopf, was a student home for the holidays. Her eldest son, Lincoln Gill Clark, later served as an of her estate. Vanderbilt was a grandmother by the mid-20th century, but public details about her grandchildren or extended family interactions remain limited, particularly after the 1960s. In her writings and public persona, she stressed the emotional foundation of good manners in child-rearing, noting that "good manners have much to do with the emotions" and must be genuinely felt rather than merely performed.

Written Works

Etiquette Books

Amy Vanderbilt's seminal work in etiquette, Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette, was first published in 1952 by Doubleday and quickly became a . The book provided a thorough guide to social conduct, emphasizing practical guidance for everyday interactions in post-World War II America. Key topics included proper dining protocols, such as table settings and meal service; composing personal and ; and navigating social events like weddings, parties, and formal gatherings, all illustrated with real-world examples to promote gracious living. The publication evolved through multiple revisions to address emerging . The 1956 edition, often referred to as Amy Vanderbilt's New Complete Book of Etiquette, incorporated updates for changes, including expanded advice on telephone usage in professional and social contexts, reflecting the increasing ubiquity of phone communication. Subsequent revisions in 1963 and beyond maintained the core structure while refining sections on interpersonal relations and public behavior. By the 1970s, the title shifted to Amy Vanderbilt's Etiquette: The Guide to Gracious Living, with the 1972 edition revised by Vanderbilt adapting to the countercultural influences of the by introducing more flexible guidelines, such as relaxed dress codes for casual occasions and adjusted norms for and informal socializing, balancing with progressive attitudes toward personal . The 1978 edition was further updated posthumously by . Vanderbilt's research for these works drew from extensive consultations with authorities, historical texts on manners, and informal surveys of American customs to ensure relevance and applicability to diverse contemporary lifestyles. This methodical approach, detailed in the book's , allowed her to synthesize European traditions with practical American adaptations.

Culinary and Other Publications

Amy Vanderbilt extended her expertise beyond strict into with the publication of Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Cookbook in 1961 by Doubleday & Company. This comprehensive volume, spanning 811 pages, features over 1,000 recipes drawn from her personal files, covering everything from everyday family meals to elaborate dinner parties, and is illustrated with simple black line drawings by the then-emerging artist . The book uniquely blends culinary instruction with Vanderbilt's signature etiquette guidance, incorporating advice on table settings, serving protocols, and gracious hosting within recipe contexts to ensure meals align with social norms. For instance, sections on formal dinners include tips for coordinating silverware placement and etiquette alongside preparation steps, reflecting her view that proper dining encompassed both food and manners. Other notable works include Amy Vanderbilt's Everyday Etiquette (1956), a practical to daily manners, and Amy Vanderbilt's Guide to Correct Letter Writing (1962), offering advice on correspondence. In addition to these books, Vanderbilt contributed numerous articles to magazines such as and during the 1950s and 1960s, often focusing on home entertaining, party planning, and integrating cuisine with social graces. These pieces, which appeared regularly alongside her syndicated columns, offered practical tips for hosting events like parties and gatherings, emphasizing effortless elegance in domestic settings. Overall, Vanderbilt authored several books, with the majority centered on variations, but her culinary and related publications highlighted her broader influence on American culture during the mid-20th century.

Death and Legacy

Final Years and Death

In the early 1970s, Amy Vanderbilt suffered from , for which she was prescribed that her husband, Kellar, later indicated may have contributed to occasional dizzy spells and potential disorientation. On December 27, 1974, Vanderbilt, aged 66, died from multiple fractures after falling from a second-floor of her apartment at 438 East 87th Street in . The New York City Medical Examiner's office ruled the death accidental following an autopsy, which revealed extensive fractures of the and spine but no other contributing factors. However, speculation arose that the fall might have been a , possibly influenced by disorientation from her medication, though no was found and her husband maintained it was an accident. Vanderbilt's funeral was private and attended only by family members, held shortly after her death. She was buried at the in , New York.

Cultural Impact and Influence

Amy Vanderbilt played a pivotal role in standardizing post-World War II etiquette in the United States, democratizing formal manners for the emerging through her accessible advice on social conduct in everyday settings like offices and homes. Her 1952 book, Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette, sold 900,000 copies in its first six months and went through multiple editions, establishing her as a successor to and shaping national norms on gracious living amid rapid social changes. This work emphasized practical protocols for modern life, influencing how Americans navigated class distinctions and urban interactions in the postwar era. Vanderbilt's influence extended to subsequent etiquette authorities, including revisions to Emily Post's guidelines, as her emphasis on consideration and adaptability informed later iterations of American manners manuals. Her books continue to be reprinted, with the 50th anniversary edition of The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette updated in 1995 to address contemporary issues like business meetings and public behavior, ensuring their relevance into the 21st century. In media, her protocols remain referenced for topics such as wedding etiquette, including attire and thank-you notes, highlighting her enduring footprint in popular culture. A notable cultural collaboration was her 1961 cookbook, Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Cookbook, illustrated by a then-obscure , whose whimsical line drawings elevated the volume's artistic status and turned it into a collector's item bridging , , and . As an official etiquette consultant to the U.S. Department of State, Vanderbilt advised on diplomatic protocols, contributing to the projection of American sophistication in during the . Modern assessments praise the adaptability of her advice to diverse societies, with updated editions incorporating inclusivity toward race, religion, and cultural differences, though critiques note its original mid-20th-century focus on traditional hierarchies.

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