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Reciprocal liking, also known as reciprocity of attraction,[1] is the act of a person feeling an attraction to someone only upon learning or becoming aware of that person's attraction to themselves. Reciprocal liking has a significant impact on human attraction and the formation of relationships.[2] People that reciprocally have a liking for each other typically initiate or develop a friendship or romantic relationship. Feelings of admiration, affection, love, and respect are characteristics for reciprocal liking between the two individuals.[3] When there is reciprocal liking there is strong mutual attraction or strong mutual liking, but with others there is not. The feelings of warmth and intimacy also play a role. The consideration and desire to spend time with one another is another strong indicator for reciprocal liking.[4]
Early studies
[edit]Studies in psychology show that people tend to like the people that like them. For example, in an early psychological study the participants subtly found out that a stranger liked them. Elliot Aronson and Phillip Worchel conducted the study, which required pairs of participants to have a simple conversation with one another. After the conversation, they privately rated how much they liked their partners.[5] However, one of the individuals in each of the pairs was not actually part of the experiment, but instead was someone working with the researchers, acting as if they were a participant. Each conversation in the study occurred between a real participant and a trained actor. After their conversation, the participants were asked to write a brief statement about what they thought of their partner. After they had written these statements, the experimenters allowed them to read what their respective partners had written. Once the participants had read that their partners liked them, they then reported liking their partners more than when they had read that their partners did not like them.[6]
Attraction and relationships
[edit]Attraction is a process in which two people interact, one person transmits verbal, visual, or other stimuli, and on the other hand, the other person responds more or less positively to the stimuli.[7] Reciprocal liking can affect our choice of whom we have relationships with, including romantic, sexual, and platonic.[2] According to the reciprocity principle, people tend to favor the potential partners who return the interest.[8] Experts have claimed that when people select potential mates, they look for someone whose status, physical attractiveness, and personal qualities are about the same as their own. According to a theory, a person will select a potential partner who will better his or her self-image or persona. Researchers acknowledge a set of flirting behaviors, that have been employed by both sexes to attract each other. Conversations that are started by romantic attraction are typically light and include laughter.[9] There have been years of research that have established many principles of attraction, one being an experiment by Aron and his colleagues, conducted in 1989, that found that most people repeatedly mentioned reciprocal liking, personality, and appearance as factors that influenced them to fall in love.[10] People are naturally more attracted to those who express positive emotions towards them and simply knowing that someone is attracted to them can induce this reciprocal interest.[11]
Reciprocal liking can be indicated non-verbally,[12] such as through body languages (for example maintaining eye contact or leaning forward). Reciprocal liking and desirability of a person appear to be the most influential when falling in love.[13] Aron et Al (1989) reported that in their sample of Canadian college students who recently fell in love, approximately 90% of them mentioned some indicator of thinking that the other person was attracted to them and the study also showed that maintaining eye contact was the most common clue. It has also been shown that people often flatter and praise people whose favour they are trying to win, and people said that they even modify their self-presentation to better fit the expectations or preferences of the person to whom they are attracted, or from whom they are seeking attention or affection.[14]
Reciprocal liking has been observed in schools, and amongst the younger generation in general. For example, children evaluate their peers' behaviours, relationships, and interactions and then construct their own interpretations.[15] Students tend to choose friends that are similar to themselves, meaning those who share the same likes and interests. There are two psychological reasons as to why this seems to happen, the first being social pressure and the other being the set of assumptions people tend to make about those who are similar to themselves.[16] Students are often socially pressured to form friendships depending on the person's age, gender, social class, or racial-ethnic background.[15] Parents and other adults involved in a child's life can also have a large influence on the friendships that children choose to have, this being because they teach children to select "appropriate" friends who will not pass on bad morals or inappropriate traits.
Self-esteem
[edit]A person's self-esteem also has a significant impact on the frequency and mannerisms of reciprocal liking. While those with positive self-esteem respond to reciprocal liking, those with negative self-esteem seem to prefer working with people who are critical of them.[17] Nathaniel Branden stated that "self-esteem creates a set of implicit expectations about what is possible and appropriate to us", and further said that "one's reality confirms and strengthens one's original belief".[18] This explains why self-esteem plays a role in reciprocal liking.[19]
Cultural influences
[edit]People from different cultures can experience and understand different effects of reciprocal liking since some people take in verbal or non-verbal communication differently due to their cultural backgrounds. In high-context cultures (HCC) and low-context cultures (LCC), this can have an impact on how people perceive others depending on a number of factors to do with how they grew up.[20] In HCCs, such as China and Korea, people tend to use vague and ambiguous language, while in LCCs people will be clear and direct in their communication. These two types of cultures can have an effect on reciprocal liking because if one person from each of these two cultures were to be conversing, the person from an LCC might believe that the person from an HCC does not like them due to the fact that they are using ambiguous language while speaking. As a result, the person from a low-context culture may conclude that their high-context culture conversation partner dislikes them, and following the rules of reciprocal liking, they will return this dislike or disinterest.[citation needed]
Culture plays a particular role in reciprocal liking, and cultures that operate independently from other cultures is also an important factor for individuals reciprocally liking each other. Goals of personal fulfillment and emotional intimacy in relationships are often a principal in independent cultures. An example of this may be that love should be the primary basis for two people to get married.[21] The ethic of reciprocal liking is adopted by nearly every major religion, and if this were to stop human culture would not be able to prosper because people routinely exchange goods, services, and other things with one another.[22] On the other hand, it has been proven that there seems to be no signs of romantic love in some cultures such as some non-western countries based on anthropologists and historians.[23]
Social media
[edit]Reciprocal liking can also refer to the act of a user liking a social media post, image or article from a different user who initially liked the first user's content. This is often to return the act of kindness.[24]
See also
[edit]- Unrequited love – Love that is not reciprocated
References
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Foundations
Definition and Core Concept
Reciprocal liking, also known as reciprocity of attraction, refers to the tendency for individuals to develop positive feelings toward others who first express liking or attraction toward them.[7] This phenomenon is often described as a cultural truism in social psychology, reflecting a widely held belief that mutual affection naturally follows initial positive regard.[7] At its core, reciprocal liking operates as a bidirectional process in social interactions, where one person's disclosure of liking prompts a reciprocal response, creating a cycle of escalating mutual affection.[7] This cycle begins with cautious expressions of interest, often requiring some evidence of the other's positive feelings before full disclosure, which then reinforces the bond through continued validation and rewarding exchanges.[7] Unlike factors such as similarity in attitudes or physical proximity, which facilitate initial encounters, reciprocal liking specifically hinges on the perception of being valued by the other, making it a distinct driver of interpersonal attraction.[7] In everyday scenarios, this principle manifests simply, such as when a colleague returns a compliment with enthusiasm, fostering a warmer professional rapport, or when a friend shares a personal interest after sensing approval, deepening the connection without deeper psychological analysis.[8]Historical and Early Research
The concept of reciprocal liking first gained empirical attention in the mid-20th century, emerging within the broader field of social psychology's exploration of interpersonal attraction during the 1950s and 1960s. Early investigations linked it to attitude similarity research, where perceived agreement on opinions was found to foster mutual positive evaluations, laying groundwork for understanding reciprocity as a social bond enhancer. Donn Byrne's foundational work in this era emphasized how shared attitudes serve as positive reinforcers, indirectly supporting the idea that expressed liking from others could similarly boost attraction. A pivotal early experiment by Carl W. Backman and Paul F. Secord in 1959 provided direct evidence for reciprocal liking through a controlled group setting with same-sex freshmen strangers. Participants rated their attraction to group members after receiving manipulated feedback indicating varying degrees of liking from those members; results showed a strong positive relationship, with higher perceived liking leading to greater reported attraction. This study established perceived liking as a causal driver of interpersonal attraction, independent of other factors like physical appearance.[1] In the 1960s and 1970s, researchers built on these findings using experimental paradigms to isolate reciprocity's effects. The bogus stranger paradigm, pioneered by Donn Byrne, involved participants evaluating attitudes attributed to a fictional other; adaptations manipulated feedback to suggest the stranger's liking, consistently yielding higher attraction ratings when positive reciprocity was implied. Theoretical framing shifted toward behaviorism and reinforcement theory, with Byrne and Gerald L. Clore's 1974 model positing that being liked generates positive affect, acting as a reinforcer that conditions reciprocal positive responses and strengthens bonds. By the late 1970s and into the 1980s, accumulated lab evidence solidified reciprocal liking as a robust phenomenon, with moderate to strong impacts across diverse samples. This evolution marked a transition from initial correlational observations to causal demonstrations, highlighting its reliability in controlled settings while prompting further inquiry into underlying mechanisms.Psychological Mechanisms
Processes of Attraction and Reciprocity
Reciprocal liking begins with cognitive processes where the perception that another person likes oneself prompts the attribution of positive traits to that individual, thereby enhancing overall evaluation. This attribution occurs because individuals infer benevolence and similarity from expressed liking, leading to a more favorable impression. Such inferences are particularly strengthened when liking is demonstrated through concrete actions like genuine emotional or practical support, which clearly signals care and benevolent intent, thereby amplifying the attribution of positive qualities such as trustworthiness and kindness. These inferences align with cognitive consistency theories, which posit that people strive for harmony in their beliefs and perceptions about others. For instance, when someone is perceived as likable, they are attributed qualities like trustworthiness and competence, fostering a reciprocal positive bias in judgment.[9][10] Affective components further drive this process through emotional responses such as feelings of warmth and increased affiliation toward the perceived liker. These emotions arise as reciprocity signals mutual acceptance, reducing interpersonal tension and promoting a sense of connection. Drawing from balance theory, originally formulated by Heider, the adaptation to liking dynamics suggests that imbalanced states—such as liking someone who appears to dislike you—generate discomfort, motivating affective shifts toward equilibrium through positive emotional reciprocity. Empirical evidence shows that awareness of another's attraction elicits universal affective reciprocation, manifesting as heightened warmth regardless of contextual variations. Furthermore, gratitude complements these affective processes in attraction psychology: expressing appreciation for perceived liking enhances relationship satisfaction, strengthens communal bonds, promotes closeness, and fosters reciprocal positive feelings, thereby supporting attraction and relationship maintenance beyond mere reciprocity of liking. In particular, when a liked person (such as a crush) provides authentic emotional or practical support, it acts as a strong signal of care and potential mutual interest. This perception intensifies attraction through increased affection, emotional warmth, intimacy, self-esteem, and desire for closeness, while reducing uncertainty and anxiety in early romantic stages.[11][12][13][14] Behavioral manifestations of reciprocal liking include patterns of increased self-disclosure and nonverbal mirroring during interactions, which reinforce the cycle of attraction. Individuals respond to perceived liking by sharing more personal information, signaling trust and encouraging further exchange. Nonverbal cues, such as smiling and synchronized gestures, play a key role in initiating and sustaining reciprocity, as they convey affiliation and prompt similar responses from the other party. Studies demonstrate that such mirroring enhances perceived rapport and likeability, creating a feedback loop of behavioral alignment.[7][15] Contemporary understandings frame reciprocal liking as a multifaceted model integrating affective, cognitive, and behavioral elements in an interdependent interplay. As proposed by Montoya and Insko, this model highlights how cognitive attributions of benevolent intent mediate affective warmth, which in turn drives behavioral reciprocation, particularly when expressed liking aligns with perceived motives. This framework underscores the dynamic nature of attraction, where initial perceptions cascade into sustained mutual positive regard, supported by experimental evidence across social contexts.[16]Influence of Self-Esteem and Validation
Self-esteem serves as a key moderator in the dynamics of reciprocal liking, with empirical evidence indicating that individuals with low self-esteem demonstrate weaker reciprocity in response to expressed liking from others. This reduced response aligns with balance theory, where those with low self-esteem tend to discount or dislike those who like them to maintain consistency with their negative self-view, despite a potential need for external validation. In contrast, individuals with high self-esteem tend to exhibit stronger reciprocity, more readily reciprocating liking when it aligns with their positive self-views.[7] The integration of validation theory highlights how reciprocal liking can address needs for social approval, but for low self-esteem individuals, self-verification theory often leads them to prefer feedback confirming their self-concept, resulting in skepticism toward positive liking signals rather than overriding verification motives. Such dynamics not only influence immediate attraction but also contribute to emotional regulation in interpersonal contexts, though positive social experiences may gradually enhance self-esteem over time. In particular, genuine support from a liked individual, such as a crush, can provide authentic emotional or practical validation that boosts self-esteem, signaling care and potential mutual interest. This support strengthens reciprocal liking responses by increasing affection, emotional warmth, intimacy, and desire for closeness, while reducing uncertainty and anxiety, especially in early romantic stages. Key empirical findings underscore diminished effects of reciprocal liking among those with low self-esteem, where positive liking expressions lead to smaller increases in mutual attraction compared to high self-esteem counterparts. For instance, experimental studies reveal that low self-esteem participants adjust their liking ratings upward less sharply following positive feedback, reflecting a drive for self-consistency over affirmation. Longitudinal data on social relationships more broadly, including romantic partnerships, demonstrate that sustained positive interactions can correlate with improvements in self-esteem, fostering enhanced relational confidence and self-perception over months or years.[17] Individual differences, including attachment styles, significantly shape the intensity of reciprocal liking responses, with anxious attachment—often intertwined with low self-esteem—potentially leading to mixed patterns, such as heightened responsiveness to positive cues in self-disclosure but overall caution in reciprocating liking due to fears of abandonment. In clinical psychology settings, such as therapy for individuals with insecure attachments, addressing these patterns can promote more balanced reciprocity without excessive validation-seeking or avoidance. Secure attachment, conversely, supports consistent reciprocity aligned with positive self-views. These variations highlight the role of early relational experiences in modulating how self-esteem influences liking dynamics.Social and Cultural Contexts
Interpersonal and Romantic Relationships
Reciprocal liking plays a pivotal role in the initiation of interpersonal and romantic relationships by encouraging mutual disclosures of attraction that predict progression toward deeper bonds. When individuals perceive that another person likes them, they are more likely to respond with positive behaviors, such as increased friendliness and openness, which in turn elicit genuine liking from the other party, creating a self-fulfilling cycle. In dating contexts, this reciprocity significantly boosts success rates; for instance, studies show that mutual expressions of interest during initial interactions lead to higher rates of follow-up contact and relationship formation compared to unreciprocated advances. Genuine support from a crush, such as authentic emotional or practical assistance, further amplifies these effects through the reciprocity of liking principle. When a crush provides such support, it signals care and potential mutual interest, thereby enhancing positive feelings and intensifying attraction. This leads to increased affection, emotional warmth, intimacy, self-esteem, and desire for closeness, while reducing uncertainty and anxiety in early romantic stages. These dynamics align with research on perceived partner responsiveness, which fosters intimacy and positive relational outcomes through interpersonal processes.[18] In romantic relationships, evidence from speed-dating paradigms demonstrates that reciprocity serves as a strong predictor of commitment, with participants reporting greater romantic interest when they believe their partner reciprocates their attraction, even after brief encounters.[19] Longitudinal studies of established pairs further indicate that dyadic reciprocal liking intensifies over time, fostering sustained commitment by reinforcing emotional bonds and reducing the likelihood of dissolution when positive affect is mutually exchanged.[7] This dynamic aligns with equity theory, which posits that balanced reciprocity in affection—where partners perceive equal levels of liking and investment—enhances satisfaction and prevents resentment or dissatisfaction that arises from perceived imbalances.[20] For maintenance in ongoing relationships, reciprocal affection acts as a stabilizer by promoting equity in emotional exchanges, where mutual validation of liking sustains harmony and buffers against conflicts. Couples exhibiting high levels of reciprocal positive affect report greater relationship stability. In platonic relationships, reciprocal liking facilitates friendship formation through mutual affirmations that distinguish these bonds from romantic escalation, emphasizing companionship over passion. Research shows that friendships characterized by reciprocated liking are more intimate and enduring, with individuals in mutual dyads experiencing higher adjustment and closeness compared to those in one-sided arrangements. This reciprocity in non-romantic contexts often begins with shared activities or disclosures that signal mutual regard, leading to stronger social networks without the intensity of romantic pursuit.[7]Cultural Variations and Influences
Cultural variations in reciprocal liking are significantly shaped by societal norms, particularly the distinction between individualist and collectivist orientations. In individualist cultures, such as those prevalent in Western societies like the United States, reciprocity of liking tends to be more direct and pronounced, driven by motivations for self-enhancement and personal validation. In contrast, collectivist cultures in East Asia, which emphasize interdependence and group harmony, exhibit more subdued reciprocity, as individuals may prioritize relational balance over explicit mutual affirmation to avoid potential conflict or loss of face. Cross-cultural studies have illuminated these patterns by integrating frameworks like Hofstede's cultural dimensions, which quantify individualism-collectivism on a spectrum across nations. While reciprocal liking universally influences romantic initiation, its expression varies with individualism levels; higher individualism correlates with more overt reciprocation in mate selection. These findings underscore how Hofstede's individualism dimension (scoring high in the U.S. at 91 versus low in China at 20) predicts differences in attraction dynamics. Gender and power dynamics further modulate reciprocal liking across cultures, often reflecting traditional roles and hierarchical structures. In societies with pronounced gender norms, such as those high in Hofstede's masculinity or power distance dimensions (e.g., Japan scoring 95 on masculinity), women may reciprocate liking more cautiously due to expectations of modesty and subordinate positions, potentially delaying overt expressions to align with social hierarchies. However, empirical evidence indicates minimal overall gender differences in the perceived importance of reciprocal liking for romantic development; Riela et al. (2010) examined narratives from U.S. and Chinese participants and found that both men and women valued reciprocal liking as a precursor to falling in love, with no significant gender interactions across these cultures.[21] This suggests that while power dynamics influence timing and intensity, the core mechanism of reciprocity remains gender-neutral in diverse samples. Globalization has fostered emerging hybrid patterns in multicultural settings, where individuals navigate blended cultural norms in reciprocal liking. Acculturation processes among immigrants lead to reciprocal influences, with bicultural individuals adopting hybrid strategies—such as combining collectivist harmony-seeking with individualist directness—in interpersonal attraction.Contemporary Applications
Digital and Social Media Interactions
In digital environments, reciprocal liking manifests through actions such as likes, follows, and comments, which often trigger mutual engagement by activating social norms of reciprocity and fostering relational closeness. A 2023 experimental study involving 201 participants demonstrated that users on Instagram reciprocate likes primarily with acquaintances to adhere to reciprocity norms, while likes toward close friends serve as social grooming to maintain relationships, independent of prior reciprocation. High-arousal positive emotions, such as excitement, mediate the intention to reciprocate likes from acquaintances, though this effect weakens when relational closeness is considered. These mechanics differ from face-to-face interactions due to the low-cost, asynchronous nature of digital signals, which can rapidly escalate engagement without physical cues. Platform-specific effects influence liking intentions, with visual platforms like Instagram emphasizing emotional drivers such as joy from perceived validation, leading to higher reciprocity rates among weaker ties. In contrast, text-based platforms like Twitter (now X) show reciprocity more prominently in follows and replies than in likes, where obligations arise from public visibility but emotional drivers like obligation play a lesser role compared to joy on Instagram. For instance, users on Instagram report stronger intentions to like content when experiencing positive emotions from received likes, whereas Twitter's fast-paced, informational focus results in more selective reciprocity tied to topical alignment rather than personal emotion. Parasocial elements introduce brief illusions of reciprocal liking with influencers, where followers perceive mutual engagement despite one-sided interactions. A 2021 study of 297 Instagram users found that interpersonal attractions—task-related (β=0.078), social (β=0.239), and physical (β=0.335)—enhance parasocial relationships by creating a sense of intimacy and liking, distinct from true mutual exchanges as influencers rarely respond directly. This illusion can mimic reciprocity, boosting follower loyalty without genuine two-way validation. Digital reciprocity carries both benefits and risks; it expands social networks by increasing social capital and support through mutual follows and comments, as evidenced by studies showing enhanced connectedness from reciprocal engagement. However, it amplifies echo chambers by reinforcing interactions within homogeneous groups, limiting exposure to diverse views and exacerbating polarization, according to a 2025 systematic review of 129 echo chamber studies on social media.Recent Studies and Implications
Recent empirical research since 2020 has advanced the understanding of reciprocal liking through experimental and neuroscientific approaches. A 2023 experimental study examined liking reciprocity on social media platforms, finding that users reciprocate "likes" primarily from acquaintances compared to close friends, with relational closeness serving as a key moderator shifting behaviors toward social grooming.[5] Positive emotions, such as joy and gratitude elicited by received likes, mediate the intention to reciprocate, while negative emotions like irritation reduce it, highlighting the role of affective responses in social grooming behaviors online.[22] The reciprocity of liking effect has been conceptualized as a multifaceted process encompassing affective (emotional bonding), cognitive (perception of mutual attraction), and behavioral (responsive actions) components, particularly in non-romantic contexts like friendships.[3] Methodological innovations, including neuroimaging and big data analyses, have provided neural insights into reciprocity's reward mechanisms. Functional MRI studies reveal that reciprocal social interactions activate the ventral striatum, a key reward center, similar to monetary gains, with stronger responses in prosocial individuals during mutual liking scenarios.[23] A 2018 analysis using fMRI showed that neural reward responses to perceived liking predict future affective reciprocity, with activation patterns in the orbitofrontal cortex correlating to sustained interpersonal bonds.[24] The implications of these advancements extend to practical domains. Marketing strategies leverage this principle through influencer campaigns, where authentic endorsements create perceived liking reciprocity, boosting consumer trust and purchase intent by encouraging followers to reciprocate with loyalty or shares.[25] In workplace dynamics, fostering reciprocal liking via team-building initiatives enhances cohesion and innovation, as mutual positive regard reduces conflict and increases collaborative output.[26] Despite these insights, gaps persist in understanding reciprocal liking's evolution in emerging contexts. Future research should explore AI-mediated interactions, where chatbots simulate reciprocity to build user attachment, potentially blurring human-AI emotional boundaries and raising ethical concerns about dependency.[27] Additionally, the COVID-19 pandemic accelerated shifts toward virtual reciprocity, with online platforms sustaining social bonds but often yielding shallower connections compared to in-person exchanges, necessitating studies on long-term impacts of these adaptations.[28]Chronology of Key Research on Reciprocal Liking
- 1959: Backman and Secord conduct an early experimental study demonstrating reciprocity in attraction, where perceived liking from a confederate increased participants' attraction.
- 1970: Lowe and Goldstein explore reciprocal liking, focusing on mediating effects of perceived intent and personal involvement in attributions of ability.
- 1986: Curtis and Miller show that individuals behave in a friendlier manner after learning that another person likes them.
- 2009: Eastwick and Finkel publish a comprehensive review of reciprocity of liking in the Encyclopedia of Human Relationships, distinguishing dyadic and generalized forms.
- 2013: Sprecher and colleagues demonstrate that reciprocal self-disclosure in turn-taking promotes greater liking, closeness, and enjoyment in initial interactions.
- 2021: Sprecher examines the role of expectations in positive affiliative reciprocity, supporting that perception of being liked leads to reciprocal liking.
Types and Forms of Reciprocal Liking
Reciprocal liking varies by context, specificity, and relationship type:- Dyadic reciprocity: Unique, specific liking from one individual reciprocated uniquely by another, beyond general likability.
- Generalized reciprocity: A broader tendency where liking is influenced by how much the person is liked by others in general.
- Selective reciprocity: More prominent in romantic contexts, where targeted or selective expressions of liking are strongly reciprocated, whereas unselective liking may not be.
- Contextual forms: Manifests differently in platonic friendships (often communal), romantic relationships (higher stakes), and digital interactions (e.g., social media likes).
Key Studies Chart
| Year | Authors | Study Focus | Key Finding |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1959 | Backman & Secord | Experimental interaction with confederate | Perceived liking boosts attraction |
| 1970 | Lowe & Goldstein | Attributions and perceived intent | Intent mediates reciprocal liking effects |
| 1986 | Curtis & Miller | Behavioral responses to liking feedback | Increased friendliness when liked perceived |
| 2009 | Eastwick & Finkel | Review of reciprocity literature | Differentiates dyadic vs. generalized reciprocity |
| 2013 | Sprecher et al. | Reciprocal self-disclosure | Turn-taking disclosure enhances liking |
| 2021 | Sprecher | Expectations in affiliative reciprocity | Belief in being liked causes reciprocal response |
Statistics and Empirical Evidence
- Reciprocal liking is one of the most consistent predictors of interpersonal attraction in social psychology, with experimental effect sizes typically ranging from small to large (Cohen's d ≈ 0.3 to 0.8+ depending on context and measures).
- Surveys show that a majority of individuals cite reciprocal liking as a primary reason for pursuing or developing relationships (e.g., Aron, Dutton, Aron, & Iverson, 1989; Sprecher, 1998).
- In romantic domains, selective liking tends to be reciprocated more strongly than unselective liking.
- Recent research indicates large effect sizes when linking reciprocity to intimacy, passion, and relationship satisfaction in some scales.
Glossary
- Reciprocal liking (also known as reciprocity of attraction): The tendency for people to develop positive feelings toward those who express positive feelings toward them.
- Dyadic reciprocity: Specific mutual liking between two individuals that goes beyond general tendencies.
- Generalized reciprocity: Liking influenced by a person's overall likability to a group.
- Similarity-attraction hypothesis: The principle that people are attracted to others who are similar to themselves in attitudes, values, etc.
- Liking gap: The cognitive bias where individuals underestimate how positively others view them.
- Ingratiation: Behaviors designed to increase liking from another person, often strategically.