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Grace Hightower is an American socialite, philanthropist, and actress. She married Robert De Niro in 1997, and separated from him in 2018.
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Career
[edit]As a philanthropist, Hightower launched Grace Hightower & Coffees of Rwanda in 2013 with the mission of improving Rwandan livelihoods by marketing their products internationally. She is a board member of the New York Women's Foundation and the New York Fund for Public Schools as well as a member of Ronald Perelman's Women's Heart Health Advisory Council and the International Women's Coffee Alliance. Hightower has been honored for her work by numerous institutions including the American Cancer Society of New York City.
As a socialite, Hightower's gala 55th birthday party was covered in Vogue magazine by André Leon Talley.[1] In 2010, she presented the Pratt Institute's Creative Spirit Award to director Lee Daniels.[2]
As an actress, Hightower has had minor roles in various movies including Precious (2009) and The Paperboy (2012). Additionally, she had a minor part in the ABC TV series, NYPD Blue, in the 1994 Season One episode entitled "Zeppo Marks Brothers".
As a singer, she performed the lead vocals for the track, "Somethin's Comin' My Way", written by Dan Manjovi for the 2009 Precious movie soundtrack.
Personal life
[edit]Hightower is of African-American descent and was raised in Kilmichael, Mississippi. She grew up in poverty, and worked various odd jobs to help support her family. Hightower became a flight attendant for Trans World Airlines, attracted by the possibility of traveling and expanding her horizons. Settling in Paris and later London, she worked variously as a mutual fund trader and restaurant worker. In 1997, while working at Mr. Chow, an upmarket London Chinese restaurant and celebrity hangout, she met and began dating Robert De Niro.[3]
Hightower and De Niro married in 1997.[3] In 1998, she gave birth to the couple's first child. De Niro filed for divorce in 1999 and sued Hightower for custody of their son in 2001. The two resolved their differences, however, and by 2004 the divorce was dropped and they renewed their vows.[4] In 2011, the couple had their second child, via surrogacy. They separated in November 2018.[5]
Filmography
[edit]Film
[edit]| Year | Title | Role | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1997 | Brotherhood | Cris | Fan Film |
| 2009 | Precious | Ms. Turner (social worker) | |
| 2012 | The Paperboy | Yardley's Girlfriend | |
| 2017 | Unspoken: Diary of an Assassin |
Television
[edit]| Year | Title | Role | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1994 | NYPD Blue | E.S.U. Woman | Episode: "Zeppo Marks Brothers" |
References
[edit]- ^ André Leon Talley "Grace Hightower's Birthday Party" Archived 2014-07-14 at the Wayback Machine, Vogue, April 8, 2010, Retrieved December 18, 2010
- ^ "20th Anniversary of Black Alumni of Pratt: A Celebration of the Creative Spirit", Events, Black Tie International, May 26, 2010
- ^ a b Stein, Joshua David (July 17, 2013). "Grace Hightower De Niro: The TriBeCa-Rwanda Connection". The New York Times. Archived from the original on July 18, 2013.
Ms. Hightower, 58.... I grew up in Kilmichael, Mississippi...
- ^ Peterson, Todd (November 22, 2004). "De Niro, Wife Renew Wedding Vows". People. Retrieved April 14, 2021.
- ^ Fernández, Alexia; Leonard, Elizabeth (November 27, 2018). "Robert De Niro Acknowledges 'Difficult' Split from Wife Grace Hightower After 20-Year Marriage". People. Retrieved April 17, 2021.
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Early life
Upbringing in Mississippi
Grace Hightower, of African-American and Blackfoot Native American descent, was born on April 7, 1955, in Kilmichael, a small rural town in central Mississippi.[1][3] She grew up in a large family as one of 11 children, including 10 siblings, during an era marked by racial segregation and economic challenges in the Jim Crow South.[13][14] The Hightower family resided on a modest farm, where they sustained themselves primarily through self-sufficient agriculture, producing and consuming nearly all their own food while occasionally selling excess produce for income.[14] This rural lifestyle fostered a deep connection to the land, with Hightower recalling how her family worked the fields together, buying only essentials like sugar from local stores.[14] Her parents, who emphasized values of respect, gratitude, and personal empowerment, played a key role in shaping her early worldview amid these conditions of poverty.[15] From a young age, Hightower contributed to the family's finances by taking on various local jobs in Mississippi, reflecting the economic hardships that required all members to pitch in for survival.[15] These adolescent efforts, often involving manual labor in the community, instilled in her a strong work ethic and sense of responsibility that would influence her later endeavors.[16]Early professional experiences
Grace Hightower began her professional career in her twenties as a flight attendant for Trans World Airlines (TWA) during the 1970s and 1980s, a role she pursued to broaden her horizons through travel.[3] This position allowed her to relocate internationally, settling first in Paris, where she immersed herself in French culture and learned the language fluently.[17] Her time in Paris exposed her to European arts, cuisine, and social customs, fostering a deep appreciation for global diversity that influenced her later endeavors.[3] Following her stint in Paris, Hightower moved to London, adapting to the city's vibrant multicultural scene. In London, she encountered a mix of British traditions and international influences, including theater and fashion, which further enriched her worldview.[18] These experiences abroad marked a significant departure from her roots, providing her with practical skills in customer service and cross-cultural communication.[3] After leaving TWA, Hightower worked in finance as a mutual fund trader and transitioned to the hospitality industry, serving as a hostess at the upscale Mr. Chow restaurant in London, a popular celebrity venue known for its Chinese cuisine and glamorous atmosphere.[3][4] This role in 1987 honed her interpersonal abilities in high-profile settings and served as a bridge to her eventual relocation to New York, where she sought new opportunities in the city's dynamic environment.[18]Philanthropy
Organizational involvement
Grace Hightower De Niro has served as a board member of the New York Women's Foundation, contributing to its mission of advancing women's economic security, health, and safety through grantmaking and advocacy.[19][20] Her involvement with the organization, documented in annual reports from the early 2010s, underscores her commitment to funding programs that empower women and girls in New York City.[21] She has also held a position on the board of The Fund for Public Schools, where she supported initiatives aimed at improving educational opportunities in underfunded New York City public schools by engaging private sector resources.[3] This role highlights her advocacy for education equity, focusing on resources for underserved communities. Her philanthropic efforts emphasize health education and opportunities for women's professional growth in agriculture. In recognition of her philanthropic efforts, particularly in cancer support, Hightower De Niro was honored as a Mother of the Year by the American Cancer Society of New York in 2012, celebrated for her compassionate advocacy and contributions to the fight against cancer.[22]Coffee business initiatives
In 2013, Grace Hightower launched Grace Hightower & Coffees of Rwanda (later rebranded as Coffee of Grace), a direct-trade coffee company dedicated to sourcing premium Rwandan beans to bolster the livelihoods of local farmers and promote economic self-sufficiency in the country.[11] The initiative was inspired by Hightower's exposure to Rwanda's post-genocide recovery efforts, including a 2011 meeting with President Paul Kagame and the 2004 film Hotel Rwanda, which highlighted the need for sustainable trade over charity to aid reconstruction after the 1994 genocide that claimed nearly one million lives.[3] The company's model emphasizes fair wages—often above fair-trade standards—for hand-picked and processed beans, with profits reinvested into farmer cooperatives to foster community resources and long-term independence.[23] Hightower collaborated with U.S.-based consultants Tom Mitchell and Patty Johansen-Mitchell of Strategic Coffee Concepts, who leveraged over 30 years of specialty coffee expertise to select high-quality varietals from Rwandan regions like Gicumbi and Nyamasheke.[11] The supply chain involves direct purchases from smallholder farmers, wet-milling at local stations, drying on raised beds, and roasting in Connecticut before distribution to retailers such as Whole Foods and online platforms.[3] This approach ensures traceability from farm to cup while prioritizing sustainability, including eco-friendly processing to preserve Rwanda's volcanic soil and biodiversity. By focusing on community cooperatives, the business has helped scale production and provide stable income, contributing to Rwanda's coffee exports, which support over 400,000 farmers and represent a key economic driver in the nation's recovery.[24] Hightower has made multiple trips to Rwanda to build relationships with producers, including visits to women-led cooperatives that form the backbone of the company's sourcing. During one such journey, she met Immy, who operates a washing station and leads a group of 100 female coffee growers, and Valentine, a genocide orphan who manages a model farm demonstrating best practices in cultivation and processing.[14] Her advocacy extends to empowering women in the industry, where they often head households and cooperatives but face barriers in access to markets and training; through Coffee of Grace, Hightower promotes their leadership by highlighting their stories and ensuring equitable profit sharing, aligning with broader efforts to address gender disparities in Rwanda's agriculture sector.[11] These initiatives have symbolized hope and resilience, aiding post-genocide healing by transforming coffee into a vehicle for economic empowerment and social cohesion among Rwandan communities.[25] As of 2025, Hightower continues to serve as Founder and CEO, actively engaging with Rwandan partners through recent visits.[26][27]Entertainment career
Acting roles
Grace Hightower made her acting debut in television with a minor role as an E.S.U. Woman in the episode "Zeppo Marks Brothers" of the police drama series NYPD Blue, which aired on March 22, 1994.[5][28] She transitioned to film in 1997, appearing as Cris, a supporting character, in the independent film Brotherhood, marking her cinematic debut in a story centered on gang dynamics and personal conflict.[29] Hightower's role as Ms. Turner, the social worker who visits the protagonist's abusive family home, in the 2009 drama Precious—directed by Lee Daniels and adapted from the novel Push by Sapphire—represented one of her most notable performances to date.[30] The film, which earned six Academy Award nominations including Best Picture and Best Supporting Actress for co-star Mo'Nique, brought significant attention to the ensemble cast and elevated Hightower's profile within the industry. In addition to her acting, she contributed vocals to the film's soundtrack on the track "Somethin's Comin' My Way."[31] In 2012, Hightower appeared in a small supporting role as Yardley's Girlfriend in The Paperboy, a crime thriller directed by Lee Daniels featuring Matthew McConaughey and Zac Efron, where her character added to the film's depiction of Southern intrigue and scandal.[32] Her later film work included a minor appearance in the 2017 action thriller Unspoken: Diary of an Assassin, directed by Ron Yuan, contributing to the ensemble in a narrative exploring espionage and personal vendettas, though the film received mixed reviews for its pacing and execution.[33]Singing and other contributions
Grace Hightower ventured into vocal performance with her contribution to the soundtrack of the 2009 film Precious, where she sang the gospel-inspired track "Somethin's Comin' My Way," written specifically for the project by composer Dan Manjovi.[34] Hightower, who also appeared in a supporting role in the film, collaborated closely with Manjovi, her longtime vocal coach, during the recording process; Manjovi described the session as a natural extension of their working relationship, emphasizing Hightower's soulful delivery to capture the song's themes of hope and resilience.[35] The track, produced under Lionsgate's oversight, was featured prominently in the film's emotional climax and later released on the official Precious: Original Motion Picture Soundtrack album, highlighting Hightower's emergence as a singer beyond her acting pursuits.[36] As a prominent socialite in New York City's cultural scene, Hightower has been recognized for hosting and attending high-profile events that blend entertainment and philanthropy. Her lavish 55th birthday celebration in 2010 drew coverage for its star-studded guest list and elegant decor, underscoring her influence in elite social circles.[37] That same year, she presented the Pratt Institute's Creative Spirit Award to filmmaker Lee Daniels at a gala honoring artistic innovation, an event that celebrated her own ties to the creative community. Hightower has continued to engage in cultural events through participation in prestigious musical gatherings, such as the New York Pops' 42nd Birthday Gala in April 2025, where she joined luminaries in honoring songwriter Diane Warren at the Mandarin Oriental in New York City. These appearances reflect her ongoing role in supporting symphonic pops programming and fostering connections between entertainment figures and orchestral traditions.[38]Personal life
Marriage to Robert De Niro
Grace Hightower first met Robert De Niro in 1987 at the Mr. Chow restaurant in London, where she was working as a hostess.[39] The couple dated for a decade before marrying in a private civil ceremony on June 17, 1997, at their home in Marbletown, New York.[39][7] Their wedding was attended by close family and friends, marking the beginning of a high-profile union that blended De Niro's Hollywood career with Hightower's pursuits in entertainment and philanthropy.[40] The marriage faced early challenges, with De Niro filing for divorce in August 1999 after the birth of their son, citing irreconcilable differences.[39] Tensions escalated in June 2001 when a contentious custody battle over their young son emerged, with Hightower accusing De Niro of interfering in parenting decisions and De Niro seeking primary custody.[39] The proceedings were ultimately dismissed in 2004 after the couple reconciled, leading them to renew their wedding vows that November in a private ceremony officiated by two judges, symbolizing a renewed commitment.[41] This reconciliation allowed them to co-parent their two children from the marriage while continuing their joint life in New York.[39] In November 2018, De Niro and Hightower announced their separation after more than two decades together, stating they were pursuing a divorce but intended to remain amicable.[42] The proceedings became protracted and contentious, involving disputes over asset division, alimony, and prenuptial agreements, with court filings revealing heated exchanges about financial support and property rights.[43] The couple finalized their divorce in early 2025.[10] A notable development occurred in March 2025, when the couple jointly sold their Central Park West co-op apartment for $18 million, a property they had purchased in 2006 for approximately $20.9 million.[10]Children and family
Grace Hightower and Robert De Niro welcomed their first child, son Elliot De Niro, on March 18, 1998.[44] In 2016, De Niro publicly revealed that Elliot has autism, highlighting the family's commitment to addressing related challenges.[8] Hightower has been actively involved in autism awareness efforts, serving as a supporter of Autism Speaks and participating in events such as their Celebrity Chef Gala.[2][45] She has also promoted initiatives like the organization's MSSNG project, which focuses on genomic research for autism.[46] The couple's second child, daughter Helen Grace De Niro, was born via surrogacy on December 23, 2011.[44] Helen has largely been kept out of the public eye, with Hightower and De Niro prioritizing her privacy as parents.[44] Hightower became stepmother to De Niro's older children from previous relationships, forming part of a blended family that includes daughter Drena De Niro and son Raphael De Niro from his marriage to Diahnne Abbott, as well as twin sons Julian and Aaron De Niro from his relationship with Toukie Smith.[47] This extended family structure has emphasized mutual support among the siblings and step-relations.[48] Following their separation in 2018, Hightower and De Niro have maintained an amicable co-parenting arrangement for Elliot and Helen, focusing on family unity and the children's well-being.[42] De Niro has described their approach as collaborative, underscoring ongoing family support systems despite the end of their marriage.[49]Filmography
Film
Grace Hightower has appeared in several films throughout her acting career, primarily in supporting roles. Her credits are listed below chronologically, including the year of release, title, her role, and brief notes on the project's context or significance where applicable.| Year | Title | Role | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1997 | Brotherhood | Cris | An independent action short film directed by Daniel Chung, marking one of Hightower's early screen appearances in a supporting capacity.[50] |
| 2009 | Precious | Ms. Turner | Portrayed a social worker in Lee Daniels' drama exploring themes of physical and sexual abuse, illiteracy, poverty, and resilience among African American youth in 1980s Harlem; the film highlights systemic social issues and the role of education in overcoming adversity.[51] |
| 2012 | The Paperboy | Yardley's Girlfriend | A supporting role in the crime thriller directed by Lee Daniels, based on a novel about journalists investigating a murder in the American South. |
| 2017 | Unspoken: Diary of an Assassin | (Unspecified) | Appeared in this action thriller written and directed by Ron Yuan, centered on themes of revenge and assassination.[33] |
Television
Grace Hightower made her sole acting appearance on television in the crime drama series NYPD Blue.[4][52]- NYPD Blue (1994) – Season 2, Episode 19: "Zeppo Marks Brothers" (aired March 22, 1994), as E.S.U. Woman (minor role).[28][53]