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Esther Oluremi Obasanjo also known as Mama Iyabo is a former Nigerian First Lady. She was previously married to President Olusegun Obasanjo.[1]

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Biography

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Oluremi Akinlawon was the daughter of a station master and Mrs. Alice Akinlawon (nee Ogunlaja).[2] She met Olusegun Obasanjo in the Owu Baptist Church Choir when she was aged 14 and they courted for eight years.[3] They married on 22 June 1963 at Camberwell Green Registry, SE London, when she was 21, without the knowledge of their families.[1][4] She obtained training in institutional management in London.[4]

She assumed the role of First Lady in February 1976, following a coup that resulted in the death of Murtala Muhammed.[1] She was not often seen at public engagements like Victoria Gowon, because Murtala Muhammed decided that it was inappropriate for the spouses of military leaders to be in the public eye.[4]

Works

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In 2008, Obasanjo published an autobiography titled Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, which chronicled her life experiences with Olusegun Obasanjo, portraying him as a violent womaniser.[3]

Her style is described as "elegant in a subtle manner", as she was often dressed in traditional outfits.[5]

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Esther Oluremi Obasanjo, née Akinlawon, is a Nigerian author and former who held the position from 13 February 1976 to 1 October 1979 during the military regime of her then-estranged husband, . She married Obasanjo in 1963 while he was studying in , and the couple had six children, including politician ; their union ended in divorce in 1976 amid reported marital discord. Obasanjo assumed power following the assassination of General , elevating Oluremi to the role despite their recent separation, though she maintained a relatively low public profile during this period. Her tenure coincided with Nigeria's transition from military rule to the Second Republic, but she later gained greater prominence through her 2008 Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, a self-published account that candidly describes an allegedly abusive and deceptive marriage, portraying Obasanjo as narcissistic and violent, including incidents of battery and emotional manipulation. The book, spanning her early life as the daughter of a to the strains of life with a rising military officer, stirred upon release for its unsparing critique of Obasanjo, whom she accused of habitual and , such as evicting another wife and neglecting family amid his career ascent. Presented as a therapeutic rather than a balanced , it relies on her personal testimony without independent corroboration for many claims, highlighting the subjective nature of spousal accounts in high-profile separations. Post-divorce, Oluremi has largely withdrawn from public life, with her legacy tied to this introspective work on resilience amid personal adversity.

Early Life and Background

Birth and Family Origins

Esther Oluremi Obasanjo, née Akinlawon, was the daughter of a railway and his wife, Alice Akinlawon (née Ogunlaja). Her father's occupation as a indicated a modest background typical of mid-20th-century n families employed in colonial-era infrastructure roles. The Akinlawon family resided in southwestern , aligning with Yoruba ethnic origins inferred from and regional ties. Specific details on her exact birth date and location remain undocumented in available public records, though her early life context places her within the post-independence generation of . This family environment, centered on employment, provided a stable yet unremarkable foundation before her marriage into a prominent political lineage.

Education and Early Influences

Esther Oluremi Obasanjo, née Oluremi Akinlawon, was born in during to an Egba family, with her father serving as a railway and her mother as Alice Akinlawon (née Ogunlaja). Her upbringing occurred in a polygamous household where her mother was the second wife; due to her parents' frequent relocations tied to her father's railway employment, she was primarily raised by a , fostering an adventurous yet disciplined childhood marked by visits to family. This mobility shaped early experiences, including a single notable instance of for school tardiness shared with a , while instilling values of toward others through familial and extended kin influences. She began formal at Baptist , reflecting the era's emphasis on missionary-led primary instruction in southwestern . Later, Obasanjo pursued professional training in institutional management in , equipping her with administrative skills relevant to subsequent public roles.

Marriage to Olusegun Obasanjo

Courtship and 1963 Marriage

Esther Oluremi first encountered on March 8, 1956, after a at Owu Baptist Church in , , where she was a member of the . She was 14 years old at the time, while Obasanjo, then 19 and serving in the , was visiting from his military posting. Their courtship, which began shortly thereafter, endured for approximately eight years amid Obasanjo's military training and deployments, including periods when he was studying in the . The couple wed on June 22, 1963, at the Camberwell Green Registry office in South East London, , during Obasanjo's overseas military education. Oluremi, aged 21, was accompanied by her mother, with Godwin Alabi-Isama serving as best man. The reflected the practical constraints of Obasanjo's international commitments, marking the formal union without immediate family involvement from .

Children and Family Dynamics

Esther Oluremi Obasanjo and had several children during their marriage, including , who served as a Nigerian senator from 2007 to 2011, as well as Busola, Gbenga, and Enitan Obasanjo. Reports indicate the couple had up to six children, though exact numbers vary across accounts, with some sources specifying five surviving offspring. Family dynamics were marked by tension and mutual allegations of abuse. In her 2008 autobiography Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, Oluremi described Obasanjo as engaging in serial beginning in October 1968, triggered by her confrontation over his extramarital affairs; she portrayed him as narcissistic, deceptive, and harsh toward the children, contributing to an acrimonious household environment. Obasanjo countered these claims, depicting Oluremi as the aggressor who subjected him and the children to , name-calling, and physical violence, including beatings severe enough to require intervention. Post-separation arrangements allowed Oluremi periodic access to the children, including shared annual vacations, amid ongoing disputes that strained family relations and influenced the children's upbringing. The couple's conflicting narratives highlight a characterized by volatility, with each party attributing dysfunction to the other's temperament and .

Divorce in 1976

Esther Oluremi Obasanjo and Olusegun Obasanjo's marriage, formalized on June 22, 1963, at Green Registry in , dissolved in 1976 amid escalating marital discord. The separation occurred shortly after Obasanjo assumed the role of Nigeria's on February 13, 1976, following the assassination of , a period marked by Obasanjo's rapid ascent in military and political spheres. Tensions had reportedly intensified in the preceding years, with Obasanjo sending Oluremi to while he remained in , signaling early breakdowns in their relationship. According to Oluremi Obasanjo's 2007 Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, the stemmed from years of alleged physical and emotional by her husband, beginning in October 1968 after she confronted him over suspected extramarital affairs. She detailed instances of beatings, describing Obasanjo as narcissistic and deceptive, and claimed the union devolved into serial violence that eroded any semblance of partnership. Oluremi further alleged irregularities in the proceedings, asserting that no formal was filed by her and that the case was never listed in court, implying potential manipulation by Obasanjo to expedite the dissolution. Obasanjo has not publicly detailed a counter-narrative specific to the in available records, though his later accounts emphasize professional duties over personal matters during this era. The couple shared five children, including , and post- arrangements allowed for continued familial involvement, as evidenced by Oluremi and the children accompanying Obasanjo during his power handover to on October 1, 1979. Obasanjo remarried Stella Abebe in a traditional Yoruba later in , underscoring the finality of the prior union's end. The reflected broader strains from Obasanjo's career and alleged , though Oluremi's claims remain her primary sourced account, unrefuted in detail by Obasanjo regarding the events.

Tenure as First Lady

Appointment and Role During Military Rule (1976–1979)

Esther Oluremi Obasanjo assumed the role of First Lady of Nigeria on 13 February 1976, concurrently with her husband Olusegun Obasanjo's elevation to Head of State by the Supreme Military Council following the assassination of General Murtala Muhammed earlier that day. She succeeded Ajoke Muhammed, wife of the slain head of state, in this unofficial capacity during the military regime. The position carried no formal constitutional duties or official functions, reflecting the ad hoc nature of spousal roles under military governance at the time. Obasanjo herself later described her tenure, stating, "As the Head of State's wife, I had no official role or function." Her responsibilities, if any, were limited to ceremonial and supportive activities aligned with the regime's transitional objectives, including preparations for civilian rule. Obasanjo maintained a notably low public profile throughout the period, with limited visibility at official events compared to predecessors or successors. This restraint aligned with the military administration's emphasis on disciplined governance over personal prominence. Her tenure concluded on 1 October 1979, when handed over power to elected President , marking Nigeria's return to civilian rule.

Public Activities and Initiatives

During her tenure as from February 13, 1976, to October 1, 1979, Oluremi Obasanjo adopted a low public profile consistent with the informal and subdued expectations for spouses of military heads of state in at the time. Unlike predecessors such as , who engaged prominently in charitable and social events, Obasanjo rarely appeared at official functions and focused primarily on private family matters amid the transitional military regime. No major national initiatives, pet projects, or organized welfare programs are documented as having been led by her during this period, reflecting the era's emphasis on and limited civilian-style pomp under Olusegun Obasanjo's administration. Her role remained largely ceremonial when public, without the establishment of foundations or campaigns that characterized later First Ladies' activities.

Post-Divorce Life

Personal Challenges and Relocation

Following the 1976 divorce, Oluremi Obasanjo encountered significant financial hardships, as reportedly ceased providing support for their children, attributing this to resentment over her refusal to relocate to with him. To sustain herself and her family independently, she established a business on land allocated to her by Obasanjo along Aiyetoro Road in , , leveraging this opportunity amid limited resources. Obasanjo later evicted her from the Abeokuta site, prompting further instability in her early business efforts, though she received assistance from associates such as Simbiat Abiola to continue operations. These incidents underscored her challenges in securing stable footing post-separation, including disputes over the divorce's legitimacy, which she described as a "phantom" proceeding facilitated by a compromised without her knowledge or consent. By 1983, seeking greater efficiency and to consolidate her personal and professional responsibilities, Obasanjo relocated the poultry operations from to , where she managed the venture amid ongoing self-reliance. This move reflected her adaptation to economic pressures while raising children without paternal financial aid, marking a period of resilience despite emotional strain from the marriage's aftermath.

Professional and Philanthropic Pursuits

Following the conclusion of military rule and Olusegun Obasanjo's handover of power to civilian President on October 1, 1979, Esther Oluremi Obasanjo stepped away from the public spotlight, with no major professional roles or business ventures publicly attributed to her thereafter. Her earlier training in institutional , acquired while residing in in the mid-1960s to complete her studies, appears to have been applied primarily capacities rather than formal or post-1979. Philanthropic efforts, such as those focused on children's welfare during her tenure—including the establishment of the Trust—did not extend into documented independent initiatives after this period. Available records indicate a deliberate shift toward a private existence, prioritizing family oversight amid ongoing personal and familial dynamics over public or charitable engagements.

Writings and Publications

Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo (2007)

Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo is an authored by Oluremi Obasanjo and published in 2008 by Diamond Publications in , , spanning 141 pages. The provides a personal account of her life, with a primary focus on her relationship with , from their initial meeting in the early 1960s through courtship, marriage in 1963, family life, and eventual divorce in 1976. It draws on her recollections of pre-independence , portraying her own upbringing as privileged and unusually permissive for a young woman, including unchaperoned travels to cities like , , and . Obasanjo describes meeting her future husband at age 11 and enduring a seven-year characterized by his letters and gifts, culminating in their at Camberwell Green registry office on June 15, 1963. Early marital years are depicted as relatively harmonious, but she alleges a shift around 1970 marked by a gold pendant gift signaling , followed by escalating conflicts including confrontations with mistresses. The narrative includes claims of , such as physical beatings after she challenged one of his alleged lovers and a 1975 incident involving a knife chase that prompted her to flee their home. In her portrayal, emerges as a "violent and unrepentant wife-basher," "sly," and "vindictive" figure prone to womanizing, with named mistresses like Mowo Sofowora and assertions of an affair involving Sani Abacha's . She recounts driving out his second , Stella, and details a rift with military colleague over Obasanjo's treatment of her, nearly resulting in a . Additional elements cover family dynamics, including the death of a child and his post-Nigerian Civil War PTSD allegedly exacerbating abusive conduct, alongside reflections on mutual and societal male entitlements. The positions itself as a raw, unfiltered victim-abuser perspective, questioning patterns of endurance in abusive relationships without external verification of the events described.

Reception and Impact of the Autobiography

The autobiography Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, published in 2007 by Diamond Publications Limited, elicited a polarized response in , primarily due to its graphic depictions of marital discord, including claims of , , and emotional manipulation by the author toward her ex-husband, former President . Contemporary media coverage framed it as a sensational that exposed private tensions, with outlets expressing fatigue over the Obasanjo family's public disputes, as evidenced by a 2008 allAfrica commentary decrying the "enough of this family" narrative amid ongoing revelations. Public acquisition of the 130-page volume reportedly involved significant effort for some readers, reflecting niche interest rather than widespread commercial success, though specific sales figures remain undocumented. Critics and commentators often portrayed the work as driven by personal grievance, with one analyst noting its portrayal of Obasanjo as an "" in domestic settings, which provoked discomfort among readers sympathetic to his public legacy, leading to characterizations of the narrative as overly vindictive and lacking detachment. In contrast, literary reviews highlighted the author's perceived and resilience, interpreting the text as a raw, unfiltered account from an Egba village background that challenged idealized views of high-profile unions. No formal rebuttal from Obasanjo appears in immediate post-publication records, though the book's allegations contributed to broader familial scrutiny, amplifying existing divorce-related controversies without resolving them. Academically, the autobiography has been analyzed as an instance of scriptotherapy, where autobiographical writing serves as a mechanism for psychological healing and wellness, particularly for women navigating trauma in patriarchal contexts; a 2021 study in the International Journal of Literature and Arts posits that Obasanjo's reconstructs her identity post-divorce, transforming pain into empowerment through candid disclosure. Further scholarship examines its of taboos surrounding the "proper African woman," reconceptualizing traditional roles by detailing resistance to spousal dominance and societal expectations in Nigerian elite marriages. This interpretive lens underscores its modest influence on , though its primary legacy remains tied to over literary merit, with limited evidence of broader cultural or shifts in as of subsequent editions in 2009.

Controversies and Disputes

Allegations of Domestic Violence

In her 2008 autobiography Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, Esther Oluremi Obasanjo detailed allegations of severe perpetrated by her then-husband, , during their marriage from 1961 to 1976. She portrayed him as a "violent and unrepentant wife-basher" who engaged in physical assaults, emotional manipulation, and economic control, claiming these acts formed part of a pattern of that included repeated and deception. Oluremi Obasanjo specifically recounted instances of physical beatings, asserting that Obasanjo's violent temper led to direct attacks on her, exacerbating the marital discord and contributing to her decision to seek . She further alleged through and isolation, as well as economic deprivation, where he withheld support despite his rising career. These claims, presented as firsthand accounts, highlighted the personal toll of the alleged , including emotional trauma that persisted post-separation. The allegations gained public attention upon the book's release, framing Obasanjo as a "master of decoy" whose public image masked private brutality, though they remain unverified by independent corroboration beyond her narrative. Olusegun Obasanjo, in his 2014 memoir My Watch, countered aspects of Oluremi's narrative by alleging that his late second , Stella, endured "constant harassment at home through calls and and physical and violent confrontation in the streets" from his "divorced ," referring to Oluremi. Oluremi acknowledged engaging in such confrontations with Stella, including taunting her after the birth of one of Stella's children in 1982 to assert her position as Obasanjo's first . Oluremi's accounts also describe her own instances of physical aggression, including slapping and punching Mrs. Mowo Sofowora—a woman involved romantically with Obasanjo—at a in the early , followed by smashing the woman's after discovering a letter advising Obasanjo to Oluremi. In 1982, Oluremi slapped Taiwo Obasanjo, another of Obasanjo's wives, which prompted Obasanjo to slap her in response. These admissions, detailed in Oluremi's 2007 Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo, suggest mutual volatility in their interactions rather than unilateral by Obasanjo. No public denial by Obasanjo of the specific allegations leveled against him in Oluremi's has been documented. Regarding legal repercussions, their 1976 separation lacked a formal decree; Oluremi filed for in 1975 but withdrew the at the urging of associates to avoid embarrassing the , while claiming Obasanjo filed secretly without serving her summons or listing the case. Post-separation interactions persisted, including cohabitation periods and the birth of a child in 1982, with Obasanjo allocating properties to Oluremi as late as 1985, during which he reportedly introduced her to other women as his wife. No subsequent lawsuits, such as for over the 2007 or related claims, were pursued by either party.

Broader Public and Familial Fallout

The publication of Oluremi Obasanjo's 2007 Bitter-Sweet: My Life with Obasanjo amplified public of Olusegun Obasanjo's personal conduct, with excerpts serialized in Nigerian newspapers such as and , prompting front-page responses in outlets like The Sun over factual disputes. The book, spanning 130 pages and detailing alleged physical and emotional abuse during their 1961–1976 marriage, portrayed Obasanjo as a "master in the art of deception" and contributed to broader discourse on among Nigerian elites, though reactions varied between for Oluremi's accounts and toward her timing amid Obasanjo's post-presidency influence. Media coverage highlighted the irony of a leader's private failings contrasting his public stance, fueling opinion pieces decrying the erosion of family respect in . Familial tensions escalated, with Oluremi attributing her children's public image struggles to the "Obasanjo name," amid reports of Obasanjo's strained bonds with offspring from multiple unions—totaling over 20 children across four wives. Daughter , a former senator, referenced her mother's book in a accusing her father of familial hatred and tyranny, refusing to retract despite pressure and citing inherited dysfunction. Similar rifts emerged with sons, including claims by one in a filing that Obasanjo had relations with his daughter-in-law, exacerbating perceptions of patriarchal discord and contributing to a narrative of generational fallout. These episodes underscored causal links between the marriage's dissolution and enduring fragmentation, independent of political motivations.

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