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Drunk dialing refers to an intoxicated person making phone calls that they would not likely make if sober, often a lonely individual calling former or current love interests.

Drunk texting, emailing, and editing internet sites are related phenomena, and potentially yet more embarrassing for the sender as, when the message is sent, it cannot be rescinded; the message may be misspelled (due to being drunk), and it might be reviewed and shared among many.

Hurtful communication

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Table from the 2010 DrugScience study ranking various drugs (legal and illegal) based on statements by drug-harm experts. This study rated alcohol the most harmful drug overall, and the only drug more harmful to others than to the users themselves.[1]
See also: Hurtful communication

A 2021 study, that examined the relationship between drunk texting and emotional dysregulation, found a positive correlation. The findings suggest that interventions targeting emotional regulation skills may be beneficial.[2]

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In Kurt Vonnegut's 1969 novel Slaughterhouse-Five, the main character describes his tendency to drunk dial:

I have this disease late at night sometimes, involving alcohol and the telephone. I get drunk, and I drive my wife away with breath like mustard gas and roses. And then, speaking gravely and elegantly into the telephone, I ask the telephone operators to connect me with this friend or that one, from whom I have not heard in years.

— Kurt Vonnegut[3]

In the 2004 film Sideways, Miles Raymond (Paul Giamatti) gets drunk and calls his ex-wife while at a restaurant. When he returns to the table, his friend Jack (Thomas Haden Church) asks him, "Did you drink and dial?"

In media

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The New York Post,[4] The New York Times,[5] and The Washington Post,[6] have all reported on drunk dialing. Cell phone manufacturers and carriers are helping callers prevent drunk dialing. Virgin Mobile has launched an option to help its users stop drunk dialing by initiating multi-hour bans on calling specific numbers[7] and the LG Group introduced the LP4100 mobile phone, which includes a breathalyzer.[8] Although the breathalyzer function was incorporated to help the user assess fitness to drive, rather than fitness to phone, the owner can program the LP4100 to restrict calls to specific telephone numbers on certain days or after a certain hour, a feature that might help limit drunk dialing by eliminating calls when the user is more likely to be intoxicated. This requires prior planning or awareness that one will become intoxicated at a later time. Some reports indicate that this phone, or a planned future version for U.S. release, would activate the call-blocking function in tandem with the blood alcohol content results from the breathalyzer.[9][10] A mobile app Drunk Mode was launched in April 2013. Drunk Mode prevents users from calling or sending messages to specific contacts for up to 12 hours. A reported feature also sets notifications every 30, 60, 90 or 120 minutes to remind users not to engage in certain "drunk behaviors".[11]

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Drunk dialing refers to the behavior in which an intoxicated individual makes a phone call to another person that they would typically not make if sober, often resulting in impulsive, emotional, or regrettable communications.[1] This phenomenon, documented in popular culture since the early 21st century and modeled after terms like "drunk driving," has gained academic attention primarily through studies on young adults and alcohol consumption.[1][2] Prevalence of drunk dialing is notably high among college students, with a 2015 study indicating that approximately 76% of drinkers report making phone calls while intoxicated, and up to 89% engaging in related electronic communications like drunk texting.[3] Studies from the early 2010s, often using self-reported surveys of undergraduates, show that 79% of participants have either sent or received a drunk dial, highlighting its commonality in social drinking contexts.[1] Motives for this behavior vary but commonly include a lack of inhibition due to alcohol's effects, desires for social connection or friendship maintenance, sexual initiation, coordination of plans, passing time, and expressing emotions such as apologies or affection.[1] These impulses stem from alcohol's role in reducing self-control and enhancing sociability expectancies, which can lead to heavier drinking and subsequent regrettable actions.[3] While drunk dialing can sometimes foster social cohesion by strengthening bonds through candid expressions, it frequently results in negative outcomes, including embarrassment, relationship strain, or post-intoxication remorse, with approximately 34% of college drinkers reporting regret from such calls.[3] In therapeutic settings, particularly for patients in substance use treatment, drunk dials to psychotherapists may signal underlying emotional distress or a need for support, though they also raise ethical concerns about boundaries.[1] Overall, the behavior underscores broader psychological effects of alcohol on decision-making and interpersonal dynamics, with limited but growing research emphasizing its relevance to alcohol prevention and intervention strategies among young adults.[3]

Definition and Characteristics

Definition

Drunk dialing refers to the act of an intoxicated individual making unsolicited phone calls or sending messages to others, often ex-partners, romantic interests, or friends, which they would typically refrain from when sober due to reduced inhibitions caused by alcohol.[4][2][5] This behavior is characterized by impulsive communication driven by alcohol's disinhibiting effects, distinguishing it from deliberate sober interactions that involve forethought and restraint.[6] Unlike routine conversations, drunk dialing emphasizes spontaneity and a lack of judgment, often resulting in exchanges that the caller later regrets.[7] Typical scenarios involve late-night calls following social drinking events, such as parties or bar outings, where the individual, under the influence, initiates contact involving emotional disclosures, apologies, flirtations, or nostalgic reminiscences.[7] These interactions commonly target personal contacts like former lovers or close acquaintances, reflecting alcohol's role in amplifying suppressed sentiments during vulnerable moments.[1] The term "drunk dialing" emerged in the late 20th century, with its first recorded use in the late 1990s, coinciding with widespread household telephone access that enabled such impulsive behaviors.[8][9] It gained popularity in popular culture and academic discussions as telephony became ubiquitous, evolving in the 2000s with the rise of mobile phones to encompass text messaging and digital equivalents, broadening its scope beyond traditional voice calls.[7][1]

Related Behaviors

Drunk texting represents a prominent extension of drunk dialing, involving the sending of impulsive text messages via SMS or messaging applications while under the influence of alcohol. This behavior is often more prevalent than traditional drunk calling due to the relative ease of composing and dispatching a text compared to initiating a voice call, which requires more immediate engagement. A study of 236 college students found that 89% had sent a text message while intoxicated, surpassing the 75.8% who reported making a drunk phone call.[10] Drunk texting can serve various purposes, including confession of emotion and sexual expression, as identified in research on related behaviors such as drunk dialing. Consequently, late-night drunk texts—sometimes colloquially referred to as "whiskey texting"—are frequently interpreted by recipients as signals of romantic or sexual interest rather than purely friendly communication. This perception arises from alcohol's disinhibiting effects, which may lead to the expression of suppressed feelings or desires. Nevertheless, such messages are highly context-dependent, potentially stemming from loneliness, impaired judgment, or other transient factors, and do not necessarily reflect the sender's true sober intentions.[10] Social media interactions under the influence further broaden the scope of these behaviors, encompassing posting, commenting, or direct messaging on platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. These actions can result in public or semi-public disclosures that amplify potential regrets, as content may reach a wider audience than private texts. In the same study of college students, 36% admitted to making a Facebook post while drunk, with 8.9% later regretting it, while 15% sent a private message on the platform during intoxication.[10] The evolution of these behaviors accelerated in the 2010s with the widespread adoption of smartphones, which facilitated constant access to communication tools beyond landlines or basic cell phones. Prior to this, drunk dialing was largely confined to voice calls, but the iPhone's 2007 launch and subsequent texting boom enabled more frequent and varied digital outreach. Google searches for "drunk text" spiked in 2009, coinciding with the popularity of the Texts From Last Night website, which highlighted anonymized examples of such messages and reflected the cultural normalization among young adults. Studies indicate particularly high prevalence among this demographic, with nearly 90% of sampled college students engaging in drunk texting.[11][10] Key differences arise from the mediums involved: texting permits pausing to edit or even attempt deletion after sending, potentially mitigating some immediacy of regret, whereas drunk dialing delivers raw, unfiltered voice communication that cannot be retracted in the moment. This contrast underscores how technology has transformed impulsive alcohol-influenced outreach from ephemeral spoken exchanges to persistent digital records.[7]

Psychological Motivations

Reasons for Engaging in Drunk Dialing

Individuals engage in drunk dialing primarily to fulfill various psychological and social needs, as identified in empirical studies on college students. Research utilizing the uses and gratifications framework has revealed eight distinct motives for this behavior among young adults: entertainment, sexuality, lack of inhibition, confession of emotion, coordination, lack of accountability, apology, and venting negative feelings. Among these, entertainment—such as seeking fun or relieving boredom—sexuality—for flirtation or pursuing hookups—lack of inhibition, driven by alcohol's role in reducing social anxiety—and confession of emotion, involving the expression of unspoken feelings like love or longing—emerged as the strongest predictors of drunk dialing frequency.[12] Alcohol acts as a social lubricant, enhancing confidence and diminishing perceived accountability, which encourages individuals to contact ex-partners, crushes, or desired others whom they might avoid while sober. A study of 433 young adults (average age 20) corroborated this by outlining five key motives: social lubricant (boosting boldness for social interaction), entertainment (creating humorous anecdotes), coordination (arranging plans or checking in), confession of emotion (voicing affection or missing someone), and sexuality (stemming from arousal or hookup intentions). These motives highlight how intoxication facilitates impulsive outreach in pursuit of immediate gratification or connection.[6][13] Drunk dialing is most prevalent among young adults aged 18-25, particularly in party or social drinking environments where alcohol consumption is high. Surveys of college students indicate that up to 79% have either sent or received a drunk dial, with no significant gender differences in overall frequency, though the behavior often occurs late at night after drinking episodes. This pattern underscores its ties to youthful social dynamics and the temporary lowering of interpersonal barriers.[13]

Influence of Alcohol on Behavior

Alcohol consumption impairs the prefrontal cortex, a brain region critical for executive functions such as impulse control and decision-making, leading to disinhibition that can manifest in unplanned behaviors like drunk dialing. This impairment occurs through alcohol's disruption of neural signaling in the prefrontal areas, reducing the ability to evaluate consequences and suppress immediate urges. For instance, acute alcohol exposure weakens inhibitory control mechanisms, allowing spontaneous actions without forethought, as evidenced by neuroimaging studies showing decreased prefrontal activation during intoxicated states.[14][15] The effects of alcohol on these behaviors vary with dosage, as measured by blood alcohol concentration (BAC). Moderate intoxication levels, typically BAC 0.08-0.15%, are associated with heightened impulsivity and emotional volatility, correlating with increased instances of risky communications like drunk dialing due to narrowed attention and reduced judgment. Chronic drinkers may exhibit altered patterns owing to tolerance, where higher doses are needed to achieve similar disinhibitory effects, though baseline impulse control remains compromised.[16][17][18] Supporting this is the alcohol myopia theory, which posits that intoxication narrows attentional focus to immediate, salient cues while diminishing awareness of distal risks, thereby facilitating impulsive acts such as unsolicited calls. This myopic effect promotes a concentration on short-term rewards, like emotional relief from contacting someone, at the expense of long-term relational considerations, as demonstrated in studies linking alcohol-induced attention shifts to elevated risky social behaviors.[19][20][21]

Consequences and Impacts

Personal and Emotional Effects

Individuals who engage in drunk dialing often experience a range of immediate emotional responses upon sobriety, including intense regret, anxiety, and what is commonly termed "hangover shame." Studies indicate that approximately 33.5% of college students regret making phone calls while intoxicated, with similar patterns observed in drunk texting where 43.6% report subsequent guilt.[10] This shame frequently manifests as heightened anxiety over the content of messages sent, leading to rumination and distress that can persist for hours or days.[7] The emotional experience typically follows a cycle beginning with temporary catharsis during the act, driven by alcohol's disinhibiting effects that facilitate uninhibited expression of feelings.[22] This initial relief is often quickly overshadowed by guilt, fear of rejection, or embarrassment as the individual sobers and reflects on their vulnerability. Such cycles align with broader alcohol-induced mood swings, where the post-intoxication phase amplifies negative emotions like remorse.[23] Emotional responses to drunk dialing vary based on individual factors, such as difficulties in emotional regulation; those with poorer access to regulation strategies are more prone to engaging in and regretting such behaviors.[22] Repeated incidents can contribute to diminished self-perception through accumulated distress and social withdrawal, potentially exacerbating feelings of isolation and low mood.[10] Common coping mechanisms include hastily deleting sent messages or avoiding contact with the recipient to evade confrontation, though these actions often intensify feelings of isolation rather than resolve the underlying emotional turmoil.[7]

Relational and Social Consequences

Drunk dialing frequently results in unfiltered expressions of emotion that can cause significant pain, arguments, or misunderstandings, particularly when individuals contact ex-partners. Research indicates that motives such as loneliness or sexual interest drive many such calls, leading to impulsive disclosures that reopen emotional wounds or provoke defensive responses from recipients. Late-night drunk texts are frequently interpreted by recipients as signaling romantic or sexual interest rather than purely friendly intent, as alcohol lowers inhibitions and may reveal suppressed feelings or desires; however, such interpretations are context-dependent and do not always reflect the sender's true sober intentions, which may stem from loneliness or impaired judgment.[6][13][24] These incidents often strain romantic relationships by reigniting dormant conflicts, fostering unwanted reconnections, or contributing to breakups. Studies among college students reveal that 33.5% regret drunk phone calls and 43.6% regret drunk texts, with such behaviors linked to acting out of character (25%) or saying embarrassing things (24.6%), ultimately eroding trust and relational quality. The perception of late-night drunk texts as flirtatious or indicative of romantic/sexual interest can further contribute to misunderstandings, emotional complications, or relational strain, even when sender intentions are not fully aligned.[3] The high rate of post-event guilt (51.7% for electronic communications) underscores how these actions can damage interpersonal bonds, prompting social withdrawal and isolation.[3] Beyond romantic ties, drunk dialing invites social repercussions, including judgment from friends and family who perceive the behavior as immature or unreliable. In professional settings, contacting colleagues while intoxicated can create awkward dynamics or reputational harm, as seen in cases where such calls blur boundaries and lead to discomfort or exclusion.[25][7] From the recipient's viewpoint, drunk dials often evoke feelings of manipulation or emotional burden, especially in therapeutic or close relationships where they disrupt established boundaries and trust. Repeated instances may escalate to perceived harassment, interfering with the recipient's sense of safety and prompting actions like blocking contacts or seeking intervention.[1][7]

Cultural Representations

In Popular Culture

Drunk dialing has been a recurring trope in popular music, often depicted as an impulsive act driven by alcohol-fueled longing or regret. In Lady Antebellum's 2010 hit "Need You Now," the song portrays a late-night call to an ex-partner as a moment of vulnerability, capturing the emotional pull of intoxication with lyrics like "It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now."[26] Similarly, Mitchell Tenpenny's 2018 track "Alcohol You Later" humorously explores the temptation to contact a former lover after drinking, framing it as a common pitfall of impaired judgment in country music traditions.[27] Noah Kahan's 2023 single "Dial Drunk" further exemplifies this motif, presenting the act as a misguided attempt at reconciliation amid personal turmoil. In literature, particularly chick-lit and contemporary fiction, drunk dialing appears as a relatable, often comedic element of modern romance and self-discovery. Emily Giffin's 2020 novel The Lies That Bind features a protagonist tempted by a late-night call to an old flame, using the scenario to highlight the risks of emotional impulsivity in relationships.[28] BA Tortuga's 2025 romance novella Drunk Dialing centers on a rodeo cowboy's accidental call to his crush, portraying the mishap as a catalyst for honest connection in a lighthearted narrative.[29] These portrayals extend to humor, where drunk dialing serves as a punchline in stand-up routines and sketches, such as Andrew Rivers' comedic bit on the awkward aftermath of calling an ex, emphasizing its status as a universal, embarrassing rite of passage.[30] In Western cultures, drunk dialing is frequently viewed as a youthful indiscretion, romanticized for revealing unfiltered emotions that sober restraint might suppress. This perception aligns with broader cultural narratives where alcohol is seen as a truth serum, enabling "honest" confessions of love or regret that strengthen social bonds in informal settings.[6][13] Such attitudes normalize the behavior among young adults, often framing it as a harmless, if cringeworthy, part of social life rather than a serious lapse. The trope has gained prominence since the 2000s, evolving with the rise of texting and digital communication to include "drunk texting" as a parallel phenomenon in popular discourse. This shift reflects broader digital culture, where smartphone accessibility amplifies impulsive outreach, as chronicled in accounts of the "drunk-text decade" that highlight apps designed to prevent such actions.[11]

In Media

In films, drunk dialing often serves as a comedic device to depict characters' impulsive vulnerability after breakups. This narrative role underscores alcohol's effect in lowering inhibitions, propelling plots toward self-reflection and recovery. Television portrayals frequently use drunk dialing to advance romantic subplots or reveal emotional depths. In How I Met Your Mother (Season 1, Episode 10, "The Pineapple Incident," 2005), Ted Mosby, after a night of excessive drinking, repeatedly drunk dials his friend Robin Scherbatsky, confessing unspoken feelings in slurred voicemails that the group reconstructs the next day for comedic and heartfelt effect.[31] Similarly, in New Girl (Season 3, Episode 7, "Coach," 2013), Nick Miller impulsively drunk dials roommate Jess Day amid jealousy over her date, leading to a raw exchange that highlights his guarded vulnerability and strengthens their budding connection.[32] With the rise of smartphones in the 2010s, drunk dialing has shifted to digital equivalents like drunk texting, prominently featured in online video content. Viral compilations on YouTube aggregate user-submitted screenshots and stories of late-night messages sent under the influence, often portraying them as relatable "fails" that mix humor with awkward regret. On TikTok, short-form videos since the mid-2010s, like those reenacting "drunk text confessions" to exes or crushes, have amassed millions of views, evolving the trope into shareable, meme-driven content that captures the immediacy of modern communication mishaps. Thematic depictions of drunk dialing in media have progressed from predominantly lighthearted gags in 1990s romantic comedies—where such acts typically resolved in reconciliations or laughs without lingering repercussions—to more nuanced explorations in contemporary television, incorporating consent concerns and emotional aftermath. Early examples treated alcohol-induced calls as harmless catalysts for romance, but recent shows emphasize potential regrets, as seen in episodes addressing blurred boundaries post-intoxication.[33]

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