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View on WikipediaAl-Anon Family Groups, founded in 1951, is an international mutual aid organization for people who have been impacted by another person's alcoholism. In the organization's own words, Al-Anon is a "worldwide fellowship that offers a program of recovery for the families and friends of alcoholics, whether or not the alcoholic recognizes the existence of an alcohol-related problem or seeks help."[1] Alateen "is part of the Al-Anon fellowship designed for the younger relatives and friends of alcoholics through the teen years".[2]
Key Information
Background
[edit]Al-Anon defines itself as an independent fellowship with the stated purpose of helping relatives and friends of alcoholics.[3] According to the organization, alcoholism is a family illness.[3] Its "Preamble to the Twelve Steps" provides a general description:
The Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoholism is a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.
Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions.[3]
Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps[4] by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic.[3]
Not an intervention program, Al-Anon does not have the stated primary purpose of arresting another's compulsive drinking. Members meet in groups. Meetings are usually small (five to twenty-five); in larger meetings, members often split into smaller groups after the opening readings so everyone has a chance to speak.[5]
Many Al-Anon family group meetings begin with the "Suggested Al-Anon/Alateen Welcome", which starts:
We welcome you to the [Name of Group] Al-Anon Family Group and hope you will find in this fellowship the help and friendship we have been privileged to enjoy. We who live, or have lived, with the problem of alcoholism understand as perhaps few others can. We, too, were lonely and frustrated, but in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless, and that it is possible for us to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.[6]
History
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Al-Anon was co-founded in 1951, 16 years after the founding of Alcoholics Anonymous on June 10, 1935,[7] by Anne B. and Lois W. (wife of AA co-founder Bill W.).[8] Before the formation of Al-Anon, independent groups of families of alcoholics met. "Bill thought the[se] groups could be consolidated and that Lois should be the one to take it on."[8]
Al-Anon adopted the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous for their own use, changing the word "alcoholics" in the twelfth step to "others" ("we tried to carry this message to others").[9][10] Its name derives from the first parts of the words "Alcoholics Anonymous".[11] Alateen, part of Al-Anon, began in California in 1957 when a teenager named Bob "joined with five other young people who had been affected by the alcoholism of a family member."[12]
Purpose
[edit]Although people commonly turn to Al-Anon for help in stopping another's drinking, the organization recognizes that the friends and families of alcoholics are often traumatized themselves and in need of emotional support and understanding. According to Lois W.:
After a while I began to wonder why I was not as happy as I ought to be, since the one thing I had been yearning for all my married life [Bill's sobriety] had come to pass. Then one Sunday, Bill asked me if I was ready to go to the meeting with him. To my own astonishment as well as his, I burst forth with, "Damn your old meetings!" and threw a shoe as hard as I could.
This surprising display of temper over nothing pulled me up short and made me start to analyze my own attitudes ...
My life's purpose of sobering up Bill, which had made me feel desperately needed, had vanished ... I decided to strive for my own spiritual growth. I used the same principles as he did to learn how to change my attitudes ...
We began to learn ... that the partner of the alcoholic also needed to live by a spiritual program.[13]
Benefits
[edit]Problems
[edit]Al-Anon/Alateen literature focuses on problems common to family members and friends of alcoholics such as excessive care-taking, an inability to differentiate between love versus pity and loyalty to abusers, rather than the problems of the alcoholic.[5] The organization acknowledges that members may join with low self-esteem, largely a side-effect of unrealistically overestimating their agency and control: attempting to control another person's drinking behavior and, when they fail, blaming themselves for the other person's behavior.[5]
Improvement
[edit]Participation in Al-Anon has been associated with less personal blame by women who, as a whole, engage in more initial personal blame for the drinking than men.[14] Family members of alcoholics begin to improve as they learn to recognize family pathology, assign responsibility for the pathology to a disease, forgive themselves, accept that they were adversely affected by the pathology and learn to accept their family members' shortcomings.[15]
Al-Anon members are encouraged to keep the focus on themselves, rather than on the alcoholic. Although members believe that changed attitudes can aid recovery, they stress that one person did not cause, cannot cure and cannot control another person's alcohol-related choices and behaviors.[16]
Treatment of alcoholism
[edit]Al-Anon's primary purpose is to help families and friends of alcoholics,[3] rather than stopping alcoholism in others or assisting with interventions. When an alcoholic's spouse is active in Al-Anon and the alcoholic is active in AA, the alcoholic is more likely to be abstinent, marital happiness is more likely to be increased and parenting by both is more likely to improve.[17][18] A 1999 clinical analysis of methods used by concerned significant others (CSOs) to encourage alcoholics to seek treatment indicated that Al-Anon participation was "mostly ineffective" towards this goal. The psychologists found community reinforcement approach and family training (CRAFT) "significantly more" effective than Al-Anon participation in arresting alcoholism in others.[19][20]
Demographics
[edit]In 2015, Al-Anon Family Groups published its 2015 Member Survey Results of demographic and other information from Al-Anon members in Canada and the United States Of the 8,517 respondents, 93 percent identified as white, 83 percent as female and 61 percent as married. Twelve percent of the respondents had children under age 18 at home,[21] while "80 percent of respondents have been in a romantic relationship involving an alcoholic partner". And one side finding was that "40 percent of respondents initially joined Al-Anon because a person with a drug problem was negatively affecting their lives".[21]
For the 2006 Alateen Member Survey, conducted in the U.S., 139 Alateen members responded. Sixty-five percent of the respondents were female, 35 percent were male, 72 percent were white and 20 percent spoke Spanish fluently. The respondents' average age was 14.[22]
Structure
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The structure of Al-Anon Family Groups may be depicted as an inverted pyramid, with the organization's headquarters (the World Service Office) at the bottom and the "autonomous"[23] groups at the top.
Groups
[edit]Al-Anon and Alateen members meet in Groups for fellowship and support. Each Group may elect a Group Representative (GR) to represent a group at District meetings.[24]
Districts
[edit]Al-Anon and Alateen Groups' Group Representatives (GRs) attend District meetings. At these meetings they discuss service activities, Group issues (their primary purpose being to be a forum for Groups) and information from their Area and the World Service Office (WSO) of Al-Anon and Alateen, with GRs having voting privileges. A District may host regular events, such as workshops and speaker meetings, for the local fellowship.[24]
Areas
[edit]An Area comprises several Districts. (For example, Texas is divided into two Al-Anon and Alateen Areas, East and West. Each Texas Area has about a dozen Al-Anon and Alateen Districts, for a total of about 24 in the state.[25]) Each Area has regular meetings (known as Assemblies) where Group Representatives (GRs) meet and vote on issues impacting that Area, host workshops and speakers and get Area information to bring back to their Groups.[24][26]
World Service
[edit]At Area Assembly, GRs elect a Delegate to the annual World Service Conference (WSC) (aka "The Conference"). The WSC meets annually to interface with the World Service Office (WSO), which is managed by administrators and overseen by the Board of Trustees (who meet more regularly themselves).
Democracy and accountability
[edit]Al-Anon promotes democracy and accountability. According to one of its General Warranties of the Conference, "That though the Conference serves Al-Anon it shall never perform any act of government; and that like the fellowship of Al-Anon Family Groups which it serves, it shall always remain democratic in thought and action." Another states "That no Conference member shall be placed in unqualified authority over other members."[27]
According to Tradition Two of Al-Anon's Twelve Traditions: "Our leaders are but trusted servants—they do not govern." Tradition Nine says: "Our groups, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve."[23] Districts and Areas are directly responsible to the Groups.
The World Service Office (WSO) is accountable to the World Service Conference (WSC). The WSC is responsible to the Areas through elected Delegates and ultimately responsible to the Groups. According to Concept One of Al-Anon's Twelve Concepts of Service: "The ultimate responsibility and authority for Al-Anon world services belongs to the Al-Anon Groups."[28]
In popular culture
[edit]When Love Is Not Enough: The Lois Wilson Story is a 2010 film about the wife of AA co-founder Bill Wilson and the beginnings of AA and Al-Anon.
The 1994 film When a Man Loves a Woman "...confronts the realities of substance abuse as it affects all members of one family with an alcoholic at its center."[29] The alcoholic is played by Meg Ryan and her husband, who makes his way to an Al-Anon meeting, is played by Andy García. The hosts of Beyond Belief Sobriety discuss the film in a 2019 podcast episode.[30]
In the Hulu show The Bear, the protagonist Carmen 'Carmy' Berzatto attends Al-Anon in response to his brother's painkiller addiction.
See also
[edit]References
[edit]- ^ Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. "Detachment" (PDF). Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-17.
- ^ Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. "Fact Sheet for Professionals" (PDF). Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Archived from the original (PDF) on 2016-03-04. Retrieved 2014-01-17.
- ^ a b c d e Al-Anon Family Groups. "Suggested Al-Anon Preamble to the Twelve Steps". www.al-anon.org. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-18.
- ^ "Twelve Steps". Al-Anon. Retrieved October 18, 2020.
- ^ a b c Humphreys, Keith; Kaskutas, Lee A (1995). "World Views of Alcoholics Anonymous, Women for Sobriety, and Adult Children of Alcoholics/Al-Anon Mutual Help Groups". Addiction Research & Theory. 3 (3): 231–243. doi:10.3109/16066359509005240.
- ^ Al-Anon Family Groups. "Al-Anon Guideline: A Meeting on Wheels, G-22" (PDF). www.al-anon.org. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. p. 1. Retrieved 2010-04-26., "Suggested Al-Anon/Alateen Welcome"
- ^ "AA Timeline". Alcoholics Anonymous. Retrieved 2014-01-17.
- ^ a b "Lois' Story". Stepping Stones: The Historic Home of Bill and Lois Wilson. Archived from the original on 2012-02-12. Retrieved 2014-01-17.
- ^ "The Twelve Steps". Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-19.
- ^ "Al-Anon's History". How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1995. p. 127. ISBN 978-0-910034-26-5. OCLC 32951492.
- ^ 2014-2017 Al-Anon/Alateen Service Manual (PDF). Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 2013. p. 139. Retrieved 2014-01-17.
- ^ "Al-Anon's History". How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1995. p. 131. ISBN 978-0-910034-26-5. OCLC 32951492.
- ^ Lois W. (1995). "Lois's story". How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. pp. 136–137. ISBN 978-0-910034-26-5. OCLC 32951492.
- ^ Kingree, J. B.; Thompson, Martie (2000). "Twelve-Step Groups, Attributions of Blame for Personal Sadness, Psychological Well-Being, and the Moderating Role of Gender". Journal of Applied Social Psychology. 30 (3): 499–517. doi:10.1111/j.1559-1816.2000.tb02493.x. ISSN 1559-1816.
- ^ Humphreys, K (April 1996). "World view change in adult children of Alcoholics/Al-Anon self-help groups: reconstructing the alcoholic family". International Journal of Group Psychotherapy. 46 (2): 255–63. doi:10.1080/00207284.1996.11491497. ISSN 0020-7284. PMID 8935765.
- ^ Al-Anon Family Groups (1997). "Step One". Paths to Recovery: Al-Anon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. Al-Anon Family Groups. ISBN 978-0-910034-31-9.
- ^ Wright, KD; Scott, TB (September 1978). "The relationship of wives' treatment to the drinking status of alcoholics". Journal of Studies on Alcohol. 39 (9): 1577–1581. doi:10.15288/jsa.1978.39.1577. ISSN 0096-882X. PMID 215841.
- ^ Corenblum, B; Fischer, DG (May 1975). "Some correlates of Al-Anon group membership". Journal of Studies on Alcohol. 36 (5): 675–677. doi:10.15288/jsa.1975.36.675. ISSN 0096-882X. PMID 239290.
- ^ Miller, WR; Meyers, RJ; Tonigan, JS (October 1999). "Engaging the unmotivated in treatment for alcohol problems: a comparison of three strategies for intervention through family members". Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. 67 (5): 688–697. doi:10.1037/0022-006X.67.5.688. ISSN 0022-006X. PMID 10535235.
- ^ Meyers, RJ; Miller, WR; Smith, JE; Tonigan, JS (October 2002). "A randomized trial of two methods for engaging treatment-refusing drug users through concerned significant others". Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. 70 (5): 1182–1185. doi:10.1037/0022-006X.70.5.1182. ISSN 0022-006X. PMID 12362968.
- ^ a b Al-Anon Family Groups (2015). "2015 Member Survey Results" (PDF). al-anon.org. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. pp. 2–11. Archived from the original (PDF) on 2018-06-28. Retrieved 2017-08-08.
- ^ Al-Anon Family Groups. "Survey among Alateen members, Fall 2006" (PDF). www.al-anon.org. Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2010-04-27.
- ^ a b "The Twelve Traditions". Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-18.
- ^ a b c "2022-2025: Al-Anon/Alateen Groups at Work" (PDF) (2nd ed.). Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters. 2022.
- ^ "Texas al-Anon/Alateen". Retrieved August 28, 2015.
- ^ In keeping with Al-Anon's structure, only Group Representatives can vote on issues and officers here too.
- ^ "General Warranties of the Conference". Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-18.
- ^ "The Twelve Concepts of Service". Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Retrieved 2014-01-18.
- ^ "When a Man Loves a Woman - Movie Review". Common Sense Media. Retrieved 2023-07-04.
- ^ Sheldon, John (September 1, 2019). "Episode 120: When a Man Loves a Woman". Beyond Belief Sobriety. Retrieved July 4, 2023.
Further reading
[edit]- Kirby, K. C.; Marlowe, D. B.; Festinger, D. S.; Garvey, K. A.; LaMonaca, V. (August 1999). "Community reinforcement training for family and significant others of drug abusers: A unilateral intervention to increase treatment entry of drug users". Drug and Alcohol Dependence. 56 (1): 85–96. doi:10.1016/S0376-8716(99)00022-8. PMID 10462097.
- Rychtarik, R. G. & McGillicuddy, N. B. (April 2005). "Coping Skills Training and 12-Step Facilitation for Women Whose Partner Has Alcoholism: Effects on Depression, the Partner's Drinking, and Partner Physical Violence". Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. 73 (2): 249–261. doi:10.1037/0022-006X.73.2.249. PMC 4652652. PMID 15796632.
- White, W. (2007). "Review of The Lois Wilson Story: When Love is not Enough". Alcoholism Treatment Quarterly. 24 (4): 159–162. doi:10.1300/J020v24n04_10. S2CID 218637411.
- Meyers, R. J.; Apodaca, T. R.; Flicker, S. M.; Slesnick, N. (July 2002). "Evidence-based approaches for the treatment of substance abusers by involving family members". The Family Journal. 10 (3): 281–288. doi:10.1177/10680702010003004. S2CID 71742028.
- Zajdow, G. (April 1998). "Civil society, social capital and the Twelve Step group". Community, Work & Family. 1 (1): 79–89. doi:10.1080/13668809808414699.
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[edit]Al-Anon/Alateen
View on GrokipediaOverview
Background
Al-Anon is a mutual support fellowship for the friends and family members of alcoholics, providing a space where participants share experiences and apply program principles to address the effects of another's drinking on their lives, without offering treatment for alcoholism itself.[8] The organization emphasizes peer-to-peer support among non-professionals, fostering positive changes in individual situations regardless of whether the alcoholic seeks help.[8] Core to its model is the principle of anonymity, which protects members' privacy and ensures meetings remain confidential.[5] Alateen serves as the youth-oriented branch of Al-Anon, specifically for teenagers, typically aged 13 to 18, whose lives have been impacted by a family member's or another's drinking.[8][2] Like Al-Anon, Alateen operates as a non-religious, fee-free fellowship where young members connect with peers facing similar challenges, promoting understanding and recovery through shared experiences.[8] Al-Anon and Alateen adapt the foundational model of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), founded in 1935, including its Twelve Steps modified for family and friends, while maintaining a non-professional, self-supporting structure.[9] The origins trace to Lois Wilson, wife of AA co-founder Bill Wilson, who in 1935 recognized the need for dedicated support for those affected by alcoholism; by 1951, she and Anne B. initiated Al-Anon by contacting 87 existing family groups to unite them into a formal fellowship.[9]Purpose
Al-Anon/Alateen serves as a mutual support fellowship designed to assist families and friends of alcoholics in achieving recovery by ceasing enabling behaviors and prioritizing their own emotional and spiritual well-being. The program's core aim is to help participants detach from the chaos caused by another's alcoholism, allowing them to focus on personal serenity and growth rather than attempting to control or fix the drinker's actions. This support is extended to adults through Al-Anon and to younger individuals, primarily teenagers, via Alateen, creating age-appropriate spaces for shared experiences among those affected by a relative or friend's drinking.[8][10] Central to this purpose is the concept of "detachment with love," which encourages members to separate themselves from the adverse effects of alcoholism without withdrawing affection for the individual. This involves refraining from covering up mistakes, preventing crises, or doing for the alcoholic what they can do for themselves, thereby halting enabling patterns that perpetuate the cycle of dependency and resentment. Through spiritual, emotional, and practical recovery tools, participants learn to assess situations objectively, release obsession with the drinker's behavior, and cultivate a life of dignity and manageability, often guided by a personal Higher Power.[11][10] Unlike Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), which targets individuals struggling with alcoholism to achieve sobriety, Al-Anon/Alateen addresses the secondary impacts of the disease on loved ones, such as anxiety, guilt, and disrupted family roles, without directly intervening in the alcoholic's recovery. The intended outcomes include diminished resentment toward the drinker, healthier family interactions through improved boundaries, and sustained personal development fostered by mutual sharing of experience, strength, and hope in group settings. These benefits empower members to lead happier lives, irrespective of whether the alcoholic seeks treatment.[8][10]History
Founding
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 by Lois W., the wife of Alcoholics Anonymous co-founder Bill W., and Anne B., who together sought to support family members and friends affected by a loved one's alcoholism. Influenced by the success of AA, which had been established in 1935, Lois and Anne organized the first Al-Anon meeting in 1951 at Stepping Stones, the Wilsons' home in Bedford Hills, New York, bringing together chairs and secretaries of local family groups to discuss unification and shared recovery needs. Bill W. played a key role by encouraging Lois to consolidate these scattered groups into a formal fellowship, recognizing the parallel need for recovery among those impacted by alcoholism.[9][12][13] Early efforts focused on creating accessible resources. Lois and Anne compiled the first Al-Anon-specific pamphlet, Purposes and Suggestions for Al-Anon Family Groups, to outline the program's aims and practices. These materials helped standardize meetings and foster a sense of community among participants.[9] The organization formalized its structure with the incorporation of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., in 1955, establishing a central office in New York to coordinate services and literature distribution. This step marked Al-Anon's transition from informal gatherings to a recognized entity dedicated to mutual support. To address the unique challenges faced by younger individuals, Alateen was launched in 1957 in California, providing age-appropriate meetings for teenagers aged 13 to 19 affected by a family member's alcoholism, with the first group registered that year.[9][14]Expansion and Milestones
Following its founding in the United States, Al-Anon/Alateen began international expansion in the early 1960s, with the first groups forming in Canada shortly after the establishment of the World Service Office (WSO) in New York in 1961.[15] Delegates from Canadian provinces such as British Columbia and Ontario participated in the inaugural World Service Conference (WSC) that year, marking the initial cross-border involvement.[9] By the mid-1960s, presence extended to Europe, with early groups forming in the United Kingdom by 1965, alongside early groups in France, Germany, and Switzerland, subsequent formations in Scotland by 1969, and the first Flemish-speaking group in Belgium in the early 1970s.[9][16] In Latin America, groups emerged in countries like Mexico, Argentina, Brazil, Costa Rica, El Salvador, and Guatemala during the 1960s, supported by translations of literature into Spanish and growing registrations at the WSO.[17] The first World Service Meeting, aimed at fostering global coordination, convened in 1965, building on the trial WSC of 1961 and its permanent status from 1964, which included representatives from the U.S., Canada, Puerto Rico, and Bermuda.[15] Growth accelerated through the 1970s and 1980s; by the end of 1979, there were 14,022 registered Al-Anon groups and 2,278 Alateen groups worldwide, including 3,271 Al-Anon groups outside the U.S. and Canada.[17] Spanish-speaking groups alone numbered 2,000 by 1980, spanning Mexico, Central and South America, the Caribbean, and Spain, while the first International Al-Anon General Services Meeting (IAGSM) in 1983 in Montreal, Canada further enhanced global unity.[9][15] In the 2000s, organizational achievements included literature updates to address contemporary needs, such as the 2000 reprint of foundational texts like The Al-Anon Family Groups and the 2002 release of the daily reader Hope for Today, which incorporated diverse member experiences.[18][19] The fellowship reached over 24,000 groups globally by the early 21st century, emphasizing outreach in regions like Asia and Africa.[20] Post-2020, the COVID-19 pandemic prompted a surge in digital meetings; electronic formats, including online and phone options, expanded rapidly, with the World Service Conference approving permanent electronic Alateen groups in 2020 to ensure accessibility during restrictions.[21][22] By 2023, these innovations supported meetings in over 130 countries, adapting to hybrid models for sustained growth.[23] As of 2025, Al-Anon continues to grow, with ongoing updates guided by the 2022-2025 Al-Anon/Alateen Service Manual.[10]Principles and Programs
Twelve Steps and Traditions
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Al-Anon/Alateen, adapted from those of Alcoholics Anonymous, form the foundational principles guiding members toward recovery from the effects of a loved one's alcoholism. In 1951, Lois W. and Anne B., co-founders of Al-Anon, sent letters to 87 family groups inviting them to join the fellowship and adopt the Twelve Steps, modifying the twelfth step to refer to "others" rather than solely to alcoholics, marking the first fellowship-wide group conscience decision.[9] By 1952, she sought approval for the adapted Twelve Traditions from both Al-Anon groups and Alcoholics Anonymous, with formal endorsement by the World Service Conference in 1961.[9] These principles emphasize personal spiritual development and collective harmony, fostering recovery from codependent behaviors such as enabling or resentment toward the alcoholic.[24]The Twelve Steps
The Twelve Steps in Al-Anon are nearly identical to those of Alcoholics Anonymous but interpreted through the lens of powerlessness over another person's drinking and its impact on one's own life, promoting self-reflection, surrender to a higher power, and amends-making to break cycles of dysfunction.[6] Members apply them to address emotional turmoil, such as anxiety or control attempts, rather than personal addiction. For instance, in Step 1, admitting powerlessness over alcohol helps individuals recognize how futile efforts to change the drinker exacerbate their own unmanageability, leading to initial relief from self-blame.[6] The full Steps are:- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.[6]
The Twelve Traditions
The Twelve Traditions provide guidelines for group operation, emphasizing unity to sustain personal recovery, anonymity to protect individual identities, and non-affiliation to maintain focus on Al-Anon's singular purpose without entanglement in external causes.[7] Tradition 1 underscores unity by prioritizing collective welfare, preventing divisions that could undermine support for affected families. Tradition 11 reinforces anonymity in public contexts to avoid publicity that might deter newcomers or expose members, while Tradition 6 ensures non-affiliation by prohibiting endorsements of outside entities, preserving Al-Anon's independence from Alcoholics Anonymous while encouraging cooperation.[7] These elements promote group autonomy, allowing local decisions without hierarchy, which aids recovery by creating safe spaces free from external pressures. The full Traditions are:- Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.
- For our group purpose there is but one authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants—they do not govern.
- The relatives of alcoholics, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves an Al-Anon Family Group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation. The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.
- Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting another group or Al-Anon or AA as a whole.
- Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps of AA ourselves, by encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives, and by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics.
- Our Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. Although a separate entity, we should always co-operate with Alcoholics Anonymous.
- Every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
- Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
- Our groups, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
- The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
- Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members.
- Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.[7]
Meeting Formats and Activities
Al-Anon and Alateen meetings take various forms to accommodate different participant needs and levels of experience, all centered on applying the Twelve Steps as a framework for recovery.[10] Open meetings, designated as "Families, Friends, and Observers Welcome," are accessible to anyone interested in the program, including professionals, students, and visitors, allowing broader community engagement.[10] In contrast, closed meetings, labeled "Families and Friends Only," restrict attendance to current or prospective members whose lives have been affected by another's drinking, fostering a more focused environment for personal recovery.[10] Beginners' meetings provide an introductory space for newcomers, typically lasting 30 to 60 minutes and covering foundational elements like the first three Steps, with experienced members facilitating questions and discussions to ease entry into the program.[25] Step study meetings dedicate time to exploring one of the Twelve Steps each month, often using Conference Approved Literature such as Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions, followed by group discussion to deepen understanding of recovery principles.[26] Electronic meetings, conducted via online platforms or telephone, offer flexibility and have grown significantly, with 125 registered groups offering 335 meetings as of September 2025, adhering to the same anonymity and confidentiality standards as in-person gatherings.[10][27] A typical Al-Anon or Alateen meeting follows a structured format to create a supportive atmosphere. It opens with a moment of silence and the Serenity Prayer—"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"—often followed by the reading of the Al-Anon Preamble by the chairperson.[10] The core of the meeting involves participants sharing their experiences, strengths, and hopes related to recovery, with the chairperson announcing any special focus, such as a step study or topic discussion.[10] The session closes with a prayer, such as the Serenity Prayer again, or a reading like the Al-Anon Declaration—"Let It Begin with Me"—reinforcing commitment to personal change and confidentiality.[25] Participation in meetings is guided by principles that promote safety and effectiveness. Members focus on personal sharing, discussing their own experiences and solutions without referencing others' stories, gossip, or external issues like specific therapies, to maintain anonymity and respect.[10] The no-crosstalk rule is central, prohibiting interruptions, advice-giving, or direct responses to others' shares, ensuring each person has uninterrupted space to speak and preventing debate or dominance.[10] Time limits, often 3 to 5 minutes per share, are enforced by the chairperson to allow equitable participation, and meetings emphasize unity by avoiding religious endorsements or criticism.[26] Beyond regular meetings, Al-Anon and Alateen offer supplementary activities to enhance recovery and fellowship. Conventions, organized at the area level, gather members for weekend events celebrating recovery through speakers, panels, and social gatherings, without incorporating religious services.[10] Workshops provide educational opportunities on program topics, hosted by groups, districts, or Al-Anon Information Services, ranging from evening sessions to full-day events focused on sharing literature and experiences.[10] Service work opportunities allow members to contribute through roles like group representatives, treasurers, or public outreach, aligning with the Twelfth Step by carrying the message and supporting the program's growth.[10]Organizational Structure
Local Groups and Districts
Local groups form the foundational unit of Al-Anon and Alateen, established by any two or more relatives or friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope for mutual aid, with no other affiliation required.[10] These groups maintain full autonomy in conducting their internal business, guided by the Twelve Traditions and Twelve Concepts of Service, except in matters that may affect other groups, Al-Anon/Alateen as a whole, or Alcoholics Anonymous.[10] Registration occurs through established Area processes to ensure coordination, but groups operate as self-supporting entities independent of ownership by higher Al-Anon structures.[10] Each local group elects a Group Service Representative (GSR) for a three-year term to serve as its voice in the broader fellowship, conveying the group conscience and participating in decision-making at District meetings.[10] GSRs, who must not be members of Alcoholics Anonymous, hold voting rights on behalf of their group—one vote per group—at assemblies, acting not merely as messengers but as trusted servants authorized to represent the group's interests and Al-Anon's overall good.[10] This role ensures that local perspectives influence service matters while fostering unity among groups. Districts provide coordination for multiple local groups within a defined geographical or non-geographical area, promoting support and communication among them.[10] Led by a District Representative (DR) elected by the GSRs, the district structure facilitates the flow of information from groups to higher levels and vice versa, including distribution of correspondence from the World Service Office.[10] The DR also supports public outreach efforts and ensures compliance with Area requirements, helping to maintain the fellowship's unity and adherence to guiding principles.[10] Groups and districts share key responsibilities, including conducting periodic group inventories to evaluate their functionality, health, and alignment with the Traditions and Concepts.[10] Financially self-supporting through voluntary contributions and literature sales, local groups allocate resources after covering expenses to support district operations, with portions passed upward to sustain the wider service structure.[10] These practices reinforce the grassroots emphasis on service and accountability at the most local level.[10]Areas and World Service
Areas in Al-Anon/Alateen aggregate multiple districts into regional administrative units, typically corresponding to a state, province, territory, or segment thereof, to facilitate coordination beyond local levels while respecting group autonomy. Each area operates through an Area World Service Committee (AWSC), comprising elected officers such as a chairperson, delegate, alternate delegate, treasurer, and secretary, along with district representatives and specialized coordinators for functions like public outreach and Alateen processes.[10][28] The area assembly, convened at least every three years by group representatives, elects these leaders and addresses regional service needs, ensuring effective communication from groups to the international level.[10] The World Service Organization (WSO), headquartered at 1600 Corporate Landing Parkway in Virginia Beach, Virginia, USA, serves as the global administrative center for Al-Anon/Alateen. Incorporated in 1954 as Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., following its founding as a clearinghouse in 1951, the WSO handles key functions including the registration of new groups worldwide, distribution of Conference Approved Literature, coordination of public outreach initiatives, and overall policy guidance to maintain fellowship unity.[29][10][30] Governed by a Board of Trustees (ranging from 7 to 21 members) and an Executive Committee, the WSO employs paid staff and volunteers across departments like programs, communications, finance, and volunteer governance to support these operations.[10][31] The World Service Conference (WSC), held annually since 1961 and formalized as Al-Anon's primary global decision-making forum in 1963, assembles area delegates, trustees, executive committee members, and WSO staff to enact the fellowship's collective conscience. Delegates, serving staggered three-year terms, carry regional input to deliberate on policies, approve literature, safeguard the Twelve Traditions and Concepts, and direct world services such as literature publishing and international coordination.[32][10] This conference ensures service continuity, promotes unity, and enables decisive action on matters affecting the entire organization, with a charter adopted in 1967 that outlines its authority and quorum requirements.[10] Funding for areas, the WSC, and the WSO adheres strictly to the Seventh Tradition, relying solely on voluntary contributions from members and groups to uphold self-supporting principles without external financial aid. At the area level, assemblies budget for delegate expenses and regional activities, drawing from upward contributions passed from groups through districts, while the WSO manages global appeals—issued quarterly—and maintains a reserve fund established in 1966 for emergencies and ongoing Twelfth Step work.[33][10] This model supports literature production, conference logistics, and administrative needs, with individual contributions capped annually at one percent of the prior year's general fund revenue to prevent undue influence.[33][10]Governance and Accountability
Al-Anon/Alateen operates on a principle of rotation in service positions to prevent the concentration of power and to encourage broad participation among members. Trusted servants, such as group officers, typically rotate every six months, while higher-level roles like Group Representatives, District Representatives, and World Service Conference Delegates serve three-year terms, with one-third of Delegates elected annually in staggered panels.[10] This structure ensures fresh perspectives and aligns with the Twelve Concepts of Service, which emphasize that leadership is temporary and focused on service rather than authority.[10] Accountability is maintained through the concept of group conscience, where decisions at all levels—from local groups to the World Service Conference—are guided by informed discussion and aim for substantial unanimity or consensus. Groups use a Knowledge-Based Decision-Making process, involving background information, open sharing, and voting thresholds such as two-thirds for binding actions or three-quarters for changes to core documents like the Traditions.[10] This democratic approach reflects Tradition Two, stating that ultimate authority resides in a loving Higher Power as expressed through the collective conscience of the group.[10] The Board of Trustees of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., provides oversight for the World Service Office (WSO), managing administrative, financial, and legal affairs while ensuring alignment with Al-Anon principles. Composed of 7 to 21 Trustees, including Regional and At-Large members elected for three-year terms, the Board establishes WSO policies, approves budgets, and guards the Twelve Traditions and Concepts.[34] Policies are developed by the WSO Policy Committee in consultation with Trustees and require World Service Conference approval by a two-thirds vote to become binding.[10] Mechanisms for addressing issues include rights of appeal and petition, which protect minority opinions and allow members to challenge decisions without reprisal. Appeals begin at the local level and can escalate to District, Area, or WSO for guidance based on shared experiences, with the World Service Conference offering mediation for broader disputes.[10] Adherence to the Twelve Traditions fosters unity by prohibiting actions that could divide the fellowship, such as endorsements or anonymity breaches, with the Conference serving as the guardian of these principles to maintain spiritual and organizational integrity.[10]Support for Participants
Al-Anon for Adults
Al-Anon provides tailored support for adult family members and friends impacted by another's alcoholism, emphasizing recovery from the relational and emotional toll of the disease. Adults often grapple with codependency, characterized by excessive reliance on the alcoholic's behavior for self-worth, and enabling behaviors, such as covering up consequences to avoid conflict or shame. These patterns can perpetuate a cycle of dysfunction, leading to long-term emotional impacts like chronic resentment, isolation, and diminished self-esteem. Through its program, Al-Anon helps adults recognize these dynamics as symptoms of the family disease of alcoholism, fostering detachment with love to reclaim personal agency.[35] Specialized meetings within Al-Anon cater to distinct adult roles, including spouses, parents, and adult children of alcoholics, allowing participants to address role-specific challenges in a focused environment. For spouses, meetings may explore navigating intimacy and trust amid ongoing drinking, while parents confront guilt over perceived failures in upbringing or current enabling, such as financial bailouts that shield the alcoholic from accountability. Adult children groups, recognized by the World Service Conference in 1984, delve into childhood traumas like fear and abandonment, using the Twelve Steps to process lingering effects into adulthood. Although all Al-Anon meetings remain open to any concerned adult, these targeted gatherings promote deeper sharing and mutual understanding without requiring separation from general groups.[36][37] Key resources for adults include the booklet How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics, which outlines the program's application to everyday adult struggles, offering personal stories and guidance on breaking codependent habits. This literature, alongside From Survival to Recovery: Growing Up in an Alcoholic Home, equips members with tools for forums like The Forum magazine, where adults share perspectives on recovery. Al-Anon emphasizes applying the Twelve Steps—such as admitting powerlessness over the alcoholic and making personal inventories—to establish healthy boundaries and prioritize self-care, like pursuing independent hobbies or therapy, thereby reducing emotional exhaustion and enhancing overall well-being.[35][37][38]Guidance on Communicating During Relapse
Al-Anon members facing a loved one's relapse into alcoholism are encouraged to approach any necessary conversations with empathy, while practicing detachment with love and focusing on their own serenity. When communicating, avoid blame or judgment, select a calm moment when the person is sober, and use "I" statements to express personal concerns. The focus should remain on support and encouragement rather than criticism or attempts to control the alcoholic's behavior. Supportive phrases that may be helpful include the following (in Spanish with English equivalents):- “Sé que ha sido difícil y estoy aquí para acompañarte en tu recuperación.” ("I know it's been difficult, and I'm here to support you in your recovery.")
- “La recaída no borra todo lo que has conseguido hasta ahora.” ("The relapse doesn't erase everything you've achieved so far.")
- “Me duele verte así, pero confío en que puedes seguir adelante.” ("It hurts to see you like this, but I trust you can move forward.")
- "I'm here for you."
- "This doesn't mean you've failed."
- "How can I support you right now?"
