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Teasing has multiple meanings and uses. In human interactions, teasing exists in three major forms: playful, hurtful, and educative. Teasing can have a variety of effects, depending on how it is used and its intended effect.[1] When teasing is unwelcome, it may be regarded as harassment or mobbing, especially in the workplace and school, or as a form of bullying or emotional abuse. If done in public, it may be regarded as humiliation. Teasing can also be regarded as educative when it is used as a way of informal learning. Adults in some of the Indigenous American communities often tease children to playfully illustrate and teach them how their behavior negatively affects the community. Children in many Indigenous American communities also learn by observing what others do in addition to collaborating with them. Along with teasing, this form of informal learning is different from the ways that Western American children learn. Informal ways of child learning include mutual responsibility, as well as active collaboration with adults and peers. This differentiates from the more formal way of learning because it is not adult-oriented.

People may be teased on matters such as their appearance, weight, behavior, family, gender, faith, health/medical issues, abilities, clothing, and intelligence.[2] From the victim's point of view, this kind of teasing is often hurtful, irrespective of the intention of the teaser.

One may also tease an animal. Some animals, such as dogs and cats, may recognize this both as play or harassment.

Nature

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A common form of teasing is verbal bullying or taunting. This behavior is intended to distract, disturb, offend, sadden, anger, bother, irritate, or annoy the recipient. Because it is hurtful, it is different from joking and is generally accompanied by some degree of social rejection. Teasing can also be taken to mean "To make fun of; mock playfully" or be sarcastic about and use sarcasm.

Dacher Keltner uses Penelope Brown's classic study on the difference between "on-record" and "off-record" communication to illustrate how people must learn to read others' tone of voice and facial expressions in order to learn appropriate responses to teasing.[3]

A form of teasing that is usually overlooked is educational teasing. This form is commonly used by parents and caregivers in two Indigenous American communities and Mexican Heritage communities to guide their children into responding with more prosocial behavior. For example, when a parent teases a child who is throwing a tantrum for a piece of candy, the parent will pretend to give the child candy but then take it away and ask the child to correct their behavior before giving the child that piece of candy. In this way, the parent teaches the child the importance of maintaining self-control.[4] When adults educate children through teasing, they are informally teaching the children. This type of learning is often overlooked because it is different from the way Western American Communities teach their children.[citation needed]

Another form of teasing is to pretend to give something which the other desires, or give it very slowly. This is usually done by arousing curiosity or desire, and may not actually involve the intent to satisfy or disclose. This form of teasing could be called "tantalizing", after the story of Tantalus. Tantalizing is generally playful among adults, although among children it can be hurtful, such as when one child acquires possession of another's property and will not return it. It is also common in flirting and dating. For example, a person who is interested in someone else romantically might reject an advance the first time in order to arouse interest and curiosity, and give in the second or third time.

Whether teasing is playful or hurtful or educative is largely subject to the interpretation of the person being teased. If the person being teased feels harmed, then the teasing is hurtful. A difference in power between people may also make the behavior hurtful rather than playful. Ultimately though, if someone perceives themselves as the victim of teasing, and experiences the teasing as unpleasant, then it is considered hurtful. If parents' intentions are positive, as in many Indigenous American communities, then teasing to the community can be seen as an educational tool. The child may or may not understand that at the moment. If the other person continues to do it after being asked to stop then it is a form of bullying or abuse.

Another way to look at teasing is as an honest reflection on differences, expressed in a joking fashion with the goal of "clearing the air". It can express comfort with the other which can be comforting. As opposed to being nice to someone's face while making disparaging remarks behind their back, teasing can be a way to express differences in a direct fashion rather than internalizing them.

In Indigenous American communities

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Some indigenous American communities use teasing to teach their children about the expectations and values of the community and to change negative behaviors. Teasing gives children a better understanding of how their behavior affects the people around them. Teasing in Indigenous American communities is used to learn community acceptance, humbleness, correcting behavior and social control.

In some Mexican indigenous American communities, teasing is used in an effective educative way. Teasing is found more useful because it allows the child to feel and understand the relevant effect of their behavior instead of receiving out-of-context feedback. Some parents in Indigenous American communities believe it mildly embarrasses the children in a shared reference to give them a good sense of the consequences of their behavior. This type of teasing is thought to teach children to be less egocentric, teaches autonomy and responsibility to monitor their own behavior.[5] Parental teasing also is practiced to encourage the child to think of their behavior in a social context. Some Indigenous American mothers have reported that this urges the children to understand how their behavior affects others around them. From examples in Eisenberg's article, parents use teasing as a way of reinforcing relationships and participation in group/community activities (prosocial behavior). Parents tease their children to be able to "control the behavior of the child and to have fun with them".[6]

An Inuit principle of learning that follows a similar teasing pattern is known as issumaksaiyuk, meaning to cause thought. Oftentimes, adults pose questions or hypothetical situations to the children (sometimes dangerous) but in a teasing, playful manner, often dramatizing their responses. These questions raise the child's awareness to issues surrounding their community, as well as give them a sense of agency within the community as a member capable of having an effect and creating change. Once the child begins to answer the questions reasonably, like an adult, the questions would stop.[7]

In some Cherokee communities, teasing is a way of diffusing aggressive or hostile situations and teaching the individual about the consequences of their behavior. It allows the individual to feel how their behaviors are affecting others and control their behavior.

Other usages

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To tease, or to "be a tease" in a sexual sense can refer to the use of posture, language or other means of flirting to cause another person to become sexually aroused. Such teasing may or may not be a prelude to intercourse, an ambiguity which can lead to uncomfortable situations. In a more physical sense, it can also refer to sexual stimulation.

Teasing is also used to describe playing part of a song at a concert. Jam bands will often quote the main riff of another song during jams.

"Tease it" is also used as a slang term to smoke marijuana. The word "tease" can also be used as a noun to stand for marijuana.

In a very different context, hair can be teased, "ratted", or "backcombed".[8] As the name suggests, backcombing involves combing the hair backwards from end to root to intentionally tangle the strands to create volume. It can also be done excessively in sections to create dreadlocks.

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Two Children teasing a cat by Annibale Carracci (current location Metropolitan Museum of Art)

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Teasing is a defined as an intentional, playful provocation in which one individual comments on or acts upon a relevant aspect of the target's situation, often accompanied by off-record markers such as or exaggerated expressions to signal non-literal intent. This interaction typically elicits a reaction from the recipient, ranging from to , and is ubiquitous across human development, cultures, and even observed in non-human . Empirically, teasing emerges in preverbal infants as young as eight months through actions like offer-withdrawal or activity disruption, suggesting deep evolutionary roots as a precursor to more complex forms of humor and social signaling. Teasing fulfills key functions in , including strengthening relational bonds, facilitating flirtation, aiding , and promoting imaginative play to pass time. It often arises in response to norm violations, such as inane remarks or deviations in mixed-gender interactions, and interpersonal tensions like sibling rivalries or workplace disputes. Developmentally, children begin to engage in and comprehend teasing around ages 11-12 with greater sophistication, shifting content from possessiveness in early years to relational themes like in ; however, deficits in interpreting its non-literal cues are noted in conditions like autism, impacting . While primarily affiliative, teasing can turn harmful when lacking clear playful signals or targeting sensitive attributes like appearance, blurring into akin to , though distinguished by its inherent ambiguity and potential for positive intent. In evolutionary terms, its presence in great apes—evidenced by provocative non-compliance or feigned gestures—highlights teasing's role in testing social rules, reinforcing hierarchies, and fostering like , without reliance on . These characteristics underscore teasing's dual potential as a tool for or , contingent on context, relationship quality, and recipient perception.

Definition and Characteristics

Core Elements

Teasing constitutes a form of social interaction characterized by an intentional provocation directed at another individual, often through mock insults, challenges, or targeting a perceived deviation from social norms or personal traits. This provocation is typically accompanied by off-record markers signaling playfulness, such as humorous , ironic tone, or explicit disclaimers like "just kidding," which distinguish it from overt . Central to teasing is its inherent , blending elements of affiliation and to test relational boundaries or elicit reactions without committing to literal harm. Key characteristics include the teaser's awareness of the target's on the teased topic, ensuring the act exploits a sensitive area while maintaining through playful framing. Teasing sequences often begin with a face-threatening act, such as of appearance or , followed by ambivalent signals that convey both and affiliative intent, fostering social calibration rather than outright dominance. Unlike pure , teasing permits reciprocity, where the target may respond in kind, reinforcing or intimacy. Empirical analyses identify , playfulness, humor, and ambiguity as foundational elements, with the balance determining whether the interaction bonds participants or inflicts distress.

Types and Forms

Teasing behaviors are broadly classified into playful and malicious forms, differentiated by the presence of ameliorative signals indicating non-serious versus unmitigated provocation aimed at . Playful teasing typically involves intentional comments or actions on a target's relevant attributes, relationships, or objects, accompanied by off-record markers such as , exaggerated expressions, or ironic vocal tone to signal jest and affiliation. Malicious teasing employs similar provocations but lacks these markers, often resulting in relational strain or emotional distress, particularly when targeting sensitive traits like physical appearance or . Empirical observations indicate playful forms predominate in familiar, equal-status interactions, while malicious variants occur more in hierarchical or unfamiliar contexts, with high-status individuals issuing hostile teases at rates up to 2.5 times higher than low-status peers in laboratory settings. Verbal teasing constitutes a primary form, encompassing mock insults, sarcastic remarks, nicknames, or that highlight norm violations or personal quirks, often resolved through to restore equilibrium. For instance, phrases like "You're such a klutz" delivered with smiling intonation exemplify verbal playful teasing among siblings or friends, fostering resilience by practicing response to . Nonverbal teasing includes gestures such as to unusual features, physical , or light pokes, which draw attention to deviations without words, as seen in children's imitative play or adult flirtatious nudges. Studies of dyadic interactions reveal nonverbal cues amplify verbal teases, with combined forms eliciting stronger affiliative responses in intimate relations compared to verbal alone. Developmental and evolutionary research identifies specific subtypes of playful rooted in . Offer-withdrawal teasing entails presenting then retracting an object or opportunity to provoke pursuit, documented in human infants as young as 8 months and great apes like chimpanzees, where it accounts for up to 15% of observed play bouts. Provocative noncompliance involves subverting expected behaviors, such as ignoring requests or providing incorrect responses, to elicit and re-engagement, evident in preverbal children and language-trained . Role-reversed teasing, rarer and requiring advanced , flips power dynamics, as when subordinates mimic superiors playfully, observed sporadically in groups and linked to enhanced group cohesion. Content-based classifications further delineate teasing by focus: appearance teasing targets , clothing, or features (e.g., weight-related jabs affecting 25-40% of adolescents in self-reports), while competency teasing mocks abilities or performance, correlating with lower in recipients. These overlap with relational forms indirectly, though teasing proper remains distinct from exclusionary tactics, emphasizing direct provocation over indirect social manipulation. Gender patterns show males engaging in physical and hostile verbal teasing more frequently (e.g., 30% higher rates in peer nominations), potentially reflecting evolved status-signaling, though cultural mediation tempers this in collectivist societies.

Evolutionary and Biological Foundations

Evidence from Non-Human Animals

Playful teasing behaviors, characterized by provocative actions such as attention-getting gestures, one-sided initiations, response monitoring, repetition, and escalation, have been documented in great apes including orangutans, chimpanzees, bonobos, and . In a 2024 study analyzing over 75 hours of video footage from zoo-housed apes, researchers identified 142 instances of such teasing, primarily initiated by juveniles aged 3-5 years targeting adults during relaxed, non-competitive contexts. These behaviors often involved subtle provocations like poking, pulling objects away, or interrupting activities, with the teaser frequently pausing to observe the recipient's reaction, mirroring elements of human teasing without reliance on . The persistence and playful intent distinguish this from aggressive or affiliative play, as teasers escalated actions only when responses were mild or absent, suggesting an intent to elicit or mild rather than conflict. Such observations across all four great genera indicate teasing predates human-specific humor, potentially originating over 13 million years ago in the common ancestor of these . Earlier ethological reviews have proposed proto-teasing in nonhuman , including chimpanzees withholding or tools to provoke reactions, though systematic quantification was limited until recent ape studies. Evidence beyond primates remains anecdotal and less rigorously studied; for instance, dogs may exhibit teasing-like initiations of play through feigned retreats or object manipulations to invite engagement, but these lack the structured provocation-response dynamics seen in apes. No comparable peer-reviewed documentation exists for teasing in non-primate mammals like cats or , where interspecies interactions (e.g., cats provoking dogs) appear more instinctual predation cues than intentional play. These findings underscore teasing as a socially in intelligent social species, facilitating bond-testing and without verbal cues.

Origins in Human Evolution

Playful teasing, characterized by behaviors such as provocation without genuine aggression, repetition to elicit reactions, and attention-seeking, has been documented across all four great ape genera—chimpanzees, bonobos, gorillas, and orangutans—indicating its deep phylogenetic roots predating the human lineage. Observations of over 150 instances in captive apes reveal consistent patterns, including one-sided initiation, prolonged gaze at the recipient's response, and escalation of antics when ignored, mirroring elements of human teasing. These findings suggest that the cognitive foundations for such behavior evolved in the common ancestor of hominoids approximately 13 to 18 million years ago, well before the divergence of humans from other great apes around 6 to 7 million years ago. In the context of , teasing likely emerged as an extension of ancestral play signals that facilitated social bonding and in increasingly complex among early hominins. Comparative analyses posit teasing as a precursor to more advanced forms of humor and joking, enabling practice in detection, testing, and non-verbal communication without risking real harm—adaptations advantageous for foraging and grooming in environments post-. Evidence from supports this, as human infants exhibit proto-teasing by age 9 months through unexpected actions like offering then withdrawing objects to provoke parental reactions, a absent in non-teasing interactions and indicative of innate evolutionary preparedness. The persistence of teasing in humans may reflect selection pressures for enhanced , where playful provocation honed theory-of-mind abilities critical for navigating and in larger, more fluid hominin groups by the Pleistocene. Unlike overt , which carries high costs, teasing allowed low-stakes calibration of relationships, potentially contributing to the evolution of and verbal as proxies for cognitive fitness displays. While direct fossil evidence is unavailable, the ubiquity in extant apes and early expression underscores teasing's role as a conserved trait, amplified in Homo species through encephalization and cultural transmission.

Psychological and Social Impacts

Prosocial Functions and Benefits

Prosocial teasing involves playful provocations intended to foster affiliation rather than harm, often characterized by reduced face threat to the target and inclusion of redressive actions by the teaser to mitigate negativity. In close relationships, such as friendships and romantic partnerships, prosocial teasing signals and strengthens bonds by creating shared humorous experiences of positive affective valence. Empirical observations indicate that satisfied romantic partners and low-status group members, like fraternity pledges, employ teasing in ways that enhance relational closeness without intending literal . Teasing serves affiliative functions by expressing , promoting , and resolving minor conflicts through indirect communication. Retrospective reports from adolescents and young adults link affectionate teasing to higher social satisfaction and, in romantic contexts, increased . Cross-cultural research suggests that teasing benefits relational ties particularly in cultures emphasizing interdependence, where self-effacement via teasing is viewed more positively than in individualistic settings. Among children, prosocial teasing occurs more frequently than aggressive forms and aids in teaching , social norms, and skills. In developmental contexts, playful teasing around ages 11-12 emerges as a tool for testing social boundaries and building resilience, with positive motivations like encouragement distinguishing it from harmful variants. Studies of early adolescents highlight prosocial teasing's role in strengthening peer bonds and facilitating identity negotiation without escalating to relational aggression. Overall, when executed with mutual understanding, teasing contributes to social competence by allowing indirect feedback on behaviors, such as norm violations, in a low-stakes manner.

Potential Harms and Risks

Teasing, when perceived as malicious or unbalanced, can inflict emotional distress and contribute to diminished self-worth. Empirical research indicates that individuals subjected to frequent or aggressive teasing often report heightened levels of anxiety and depression, particularly if the teasing targets sensitive attributes such as physical appearance or weight. For instance, adolescents experiencing weight-related teasing demonstrate lower self-esteem and elevated depressive symptoms, independent of the teasing's frequency, suggesting that subjective distress amplifies the harm. In children and adolescents, harmful teasing exacerbates vulnerabilities during developmental stages of and social sensitivity. Studies link recurrent teasing to internalizing problems, including and avoidance behaviors, with youth showing stronger associations between teasing distress and depressive outcomes. Appearance-focused teasing, common in peer interactions, correlates with body dissatisfaction and patterns, effects more pronounced in females due to societal pressures on . Long-term consequences persist into adulthood, where recollections of childhood teasing predict ongoing and interpersonal difficulties. Retrospective analyses reveal positive associations between early teasing experiences and adult scores on depression, anxiety, stress, and social phobia measures, alongside reduced comfort in intimacy and trust. Such victimization erodes relational bonds, potentially escalating to or isolation if the teaser disregards the recipient's cues of discomfort. Risks intensify when teasing blurs into , characterized by power imbalances and intent to harm, leading to sustained psychological wounds rather than transient play. Factors like the recipient's low baseline or history of victimization heighten susceptibility, as those with prior teasing exposure interpret neutral interactions more negatively, perpetuating a cycle of defensiveness. Peer-reviewed evidence underscores that while playful teasing may foster resilience, unchecked harmful variants undermine without reciprocal affirmation, warranting discernment in social contexts. In romantic relationships, discomfort from a partner's teasing, especially in online interactions with friends, can be addressed through open and calm communication. Relationship experts recommend expressing feelings without accusations, using non-accusatory language such as, "I felt uncomfortable seeing that teasing in our chat—can you help me understand the context?" This approach facilitates mutual understanding, prevents escalation to relational harm, and promotes healthier dynamics by acknowledging the distinction between intent and impact.

Key Empirical Studies

A seminal empirical review by Keltner et al. (2001) synthesized data from multiple observational and experimental studies, characterizing teasing as an ambivalent social act that often involves playful provocation to affirm group norms or resolve tensions, with 60-70% of instances perceived as benign in close relationships but escalating to conflict when targets feel belittled. The analysis drew on laboratory paradigms where participants rated teasing scripts, revealing that affectionate intent mitigated negativity, though individual differences in sensitivity modulated outcomes. Longitudinal research by Paxton et al. (2021) followed 1,084 Australian early adolescents from ages 12 to 15, using self-reports to assess peer and family teasing frequency and impact; results showed peer teasing at baseline independently predicted decreased body satisfaction two years later (β = -0.08, p < 0.01), even after controlling for initial and BMI, suggesting causal pathways from relational stress to self-perception erosion. Similarly, Cash and Smolak (2012) analyzed data from over 300 adolescents across three waves, finding that weight-related teasing in early forecasted poorer health-related in late (r = -0.15 to -0.22), mediated by deficits rather than weight changes alone. Distinctions between playful and harmful teasing emerged in cross-sectional studies like Williams et al. (2015), which combined self-reports and peer observations in 184 youth aged 9-16, linking prosocial (affiliative) teasing to enhanced psychosocial adjustment (e.g., lower loneliness, β = -0.12) but relational/aggressive teasing to elevated depression symptoms (β = 0.18) and reduced self-worth. A 2024 retrospective analysis of 300 adults recalled adolescent experiences, indicating affectionate teasing correlated with higher adult social satisfaction (r = 0.25), whereas perceived malicious teasing aligned with persistent low self-esteem (r = -0.20), underscoring intent perception's role. Experimental work by et al. (2006) exposed undergraduates to teasing vignettes with "just kidding" disclaimers, finding targets rated ambiguous teases as more hostile (M = 4.2 on 7-point scale) than teasers intended (M = 2.8), with no mitigation from disclaimers, highlighting attribution biases in real-time interactions. These patterns hold across genders, though females reported greater distress from appearance-focused teasing in meta-analytic syntheses of youth samples.

Cultural and Developmental Contexts

Cross-Cultural Variations

Teasing practices exhibit significant variation across cultures, shaped by prevailing social values, kinship structures, and socialization norms. In collectivistic societies, such as those in Japan, teasing is often interpreted as a mechanism to strengthen relational bonds, even at the temporary expense of individual face, whereas in individualistic cultures like the United States, it more frequently evokes concerns over self-presentation and potential affront. A 2007 study comparing Asian American and European American participants found that Asian Americans rated teasing scenarios as significantly more affiliative in intent and reported more positive experiences as targets, a pattern persisting after controlling for teaser behavior, attributional biases, and personality traits; this aligns with cultural emphases on interdependence over self-differentiation. Ethnographic observations highlight context-specific functions of teasing in non-Western societies. Among the of , caregivers employ teasing during food distribution and infant care—such as offering and withdrawing the breast—to teach emotional regulation and distinguish playful provocation ("keab," a mock-angry tone) from genuine anger ("enteab"), fostering social competence in hierarchical interactions. Similarly, Kwara'ae fathers in the tease infants about to navigate weaning conflicts, embedding the practice in familial power dynamics. In Mexican American households, teasing occurs most frequently among close kin during relaxed moments, serving prosocial roles like tension relief, though less systematically documented than in indigenous contexts. Institutionalized forms of teasing, known as joking relationships, are prevalent in many traditional societies, particularly in and , where they ritualize banter between specific kin categories or affinal groups to affirm alliances and mitigate tensions. For instance, in various Sub-Saharan African cultures, a man engages in obligatory teasing with his sisters-in-law while maintaining avoidance with his mother-in-law, a that reinforces reciprocity without escalating hostility; A.R. Radcliffe-Brown described these as structural mechanisms for social equilibrium, observed as early as the 1940s in ethnographic accounts from Zulu and other groups. Such formalized teasing contrasts with more fluid, informal variants in Western settings, underscoring how cultural norms dictate its boundaries and acceptability. Across these examples, teasing generally signals intimacy and rather than mere amusement, though perceptions of hostility vary with face-saving priorities—evident in Asian American couples using subtler, off-record markers compared to .

Role in Child and Adolescent Development

Teasing manifests progressively in , beginning with rudimentary playful interactions in infancy, such as peek-a-boo games that involve temporary of expectation to elicit responses, fostering early understanding of social contingencies and . By toddlerhood and years, children employ teasing to probe social boundaries, gauge reactions, and practice reciprocity, which supports the acquisition of , , and skills. Empirical observations indicate that such playful exchanges, when mutual, enhance peer relationships and by teaching negotiation over disagreements and appreciation of ironic or humorous intent. In middle childhood, teasing often serves prosocial functions, including signaling group norms, expressing affiliation, and providing gentle correction without overt , thereby contributing to and resilience against minor slights. Research on prosocial teasing highlights its role in strengthening interpersonal bonds through shared and affectionate ribbing, particularly in close relationships where it facilitates and tension relief. For instance, children who engage in reciprocal playful teasing demonstrate improved abilities to discern positive from negative motivations, aiding in the of trust and intimacy in peer interactions. Adolescence marks a shift where teasing integrates with and romantic exploration, often conveying interest or testing compatibility, yet heightened self-awareness amplifies vulnerability to its sting. Longitudinal data link retrospective memories of childhood teasing—especially frequent or appearance-related instances—to adult outcomes like reduced comfort with closeness and elevated , suggesting that unchecked harmful teasing disrupts interpersonal functioning. Conversely, moderated playful forms correlate with adaptive , underscoring the importance of contextual discernment: teasing perceived as affiliative builds resilience, while that interpreted as derisive fosters withdrawal or defensiveness. Distinctions in developmental impact hinge on frequency, intent, and recipient traits; for example, weight- or appearance-focused teasing in predicts depressive symptoms and body dissatisfaction independent of occurrence rate, whereas prosocial variants do not. Parental or familial teasing exacerbates risks, with studies showing associations to heightened negative affect in daughters, emphasizing caregivers' role in modeling benign forms to mitigate long-term emotional costs. Overall, while teasing equips youth with tools for navigating complex social landscapes, its dual potential necessitates adult guidance to maximize developmental gains over harms.

Historical Perspectives in Psychology

Early psychological perspectives on teasing were limited and often subsumed under broader categories of , , or social , with minimal systematic empirical focus until the late . In anthropological influences crossing into , A.R. Radcliffe-Brown's 1940 analysis of "joking relationships" described teasing-like interactions as structured social mechanisms for managing tensions in hierarchical or avoidant kin ties, such as between siblings-in-law, where permitted insults maintained equilibrium without escalating to conflict. Similarly, early psychoanalytic views, as in Brenman's 1952 , framed teasing as an expression of underlying or masochistic tendencies, where the "teasee" internalized provocation as self-punishment, reflecting intrapsychic dynamics rather than interpersonal strategy. These interpretations prioritized individual or cultural norms over teasing's potential adaptive roles, aligning with prevailing Freudian emphases on latent . Mid-century introduced interactional frameworks that began distinguishing teasing from pure . Erving Goffman's 1955 and 1967 works on "face" and strategic interaction conceptualized teasing as a form of off-record provocation, where the teaser issues a potentially face-threatening comment (e.g., on appearance or competence) but signals playfulness through cues like exaggeration or laughter, allowing deniability and relational repair. This drew from , viewing teasing as a micro-social of power and affiliation, influenced by prior ethnographic observations like Abrahams' study of "playing the dozens"—ritualized verbal sparring among African American youth—as competitive yet bonding verbal duels. Empirical forays in the and remained sparse, often linking teasing to conversational ; for instance, Drew's 1987 examination of natural interactions identified teasing as prompted by norm violations, serving to enforce group standards indirectly through mock complaints. By the , developmental and social marked a pivotal shift toward recognizing teasing's , integrating aggressive and prosocial elements. Donna Eder's 1993 ethnographic study of middle schoolers revealed teasing as a tool for negotiating group inclusion, where girls used it to express indirect affection or resolve conflicts, transitioning from overt in early to more relational forms by ages 11-13. Shapiro et al.'s 1991 model formalized this duality, positing teasing as comprising aggression, humor, and ambiguity, with outcomes depending on relational context—hostile in low-trust settings but affiliative among peers. This era's studies, such as Warm's 1997 survey, documented teasing's prevalence (up to 80% of children experiencing it weekly) and its evolution from physical in younger ages to verbal and playful in older ones, challenging earlier pathologizing views. Influenced by (Brown & Levinson, 1987), researchers noted how teasing balanced face-threat with solidarity, particularly in intimate or hierarchical bonds. The 2001 review by Keltner et al. synthesized these threads, defining teasing as "a playful provocation" commenting on target-relevant traits with ameliorative cues, underscoring its underdevelopment despite decades of tangential inquiry. This marked psychology's move from marginalization—often equating teasing with bullying (e.g., Olweus, 1978)—to causal realism in viewing it as evolutionarily tuned for social calibration, though empirical gaps persisted in longitudinal effects and cross-cultural generalizability. Pre-2000 work thus laid groundwork by disentangling teasing from unidimensional negativity, emphasizing context-dependent functions like affiliation (Eisenberg, 1986) over innate malice.

Teasing Versus Bullying

Teasing involves intentional, often verbal provocation accompanied by playful cues such as , , or , typically aimed at eliciting , affiliation, or social bonding among peers of relatively equal status. In contrast, constitutes repeated aggressive actions, including verbal, physical, or relational harm, driven by an intent to dominate or distress the target, exploiting a clear imbalance in power—such as , , or numerical advantage. These distinctions arise from empirical analyses emphasizing teasing's contextual flexibility versus 's consistent hostility, with the former often serving prosocial functions like relationship maintenance while the latter reliably predicts negative psychological outcomes. A primary differentiator is intent and relational reciprocity: teasing frequently permits , where the target may respond in kind or laugh along, signaling mutual understanding, whereas remains one-sided, with the perpetrator persisting despite objections or evident upset. Studies of peer interactions, including observations in romantic pairs and groups, show that teasing with abundant "off-record" markers (e.g., ironic tone) correlates with positive emotions and reduced hostility, but diminishes when markers are absent or aggression predominates, approaching territory. Power dynamics further demarcate the two; exploits asymmetries, as defined in longitudinal surveys of school-aged children where victims report inability to defend due to the aggressor's superior status, unlike teasing among equals which rarely escalates without mutual escalation cues. Repetition and persistence amplify the boundary: isolated teasing episodes, even if momentarily hurtful, halt upon target feedback, preserving social equilibrium, whereas involves systematic continuation over time, leading to sustained victimization as documented in meta-analyses of adolescent self-reports. Qualitative syntheses of 35 studies reveal that while both may target appearance or identity, playful teasing among friends fosters resilience through shared humor, but recurrent harmful variants—lacking reciprocity—mirror 's effects, including elevated anxiety and self-blame, particularly when targeting immutable traits. Empirical data from developmental cohorts indicate children as young as 11 distinguish these via , with teasing viewed as "joking around" versus 's "hurting feelings," though perceptual can blur lines in ambiguous social contexts.
CriterionTeasingBullying
IntentPlayful provocation for amusement or bondingMalicious harm or domination
Power DynamicsTypically mutual or equal-footedExploits imbalance (e.g., social or physical)
RepetitionOccasional, responsive to feedbackPersistent and systematic
Cues/ResponseOff-record markers (e.g., laughter); target may reciprocateDirect aggression; causes unmitigated distress
Transitions from to occur when playful elements erode, such as through unchecked repetition or escalating , as observed in peer dyads where initial jests targeting vulnerabilities foster victim schemas akin to chronic . This underscores causal realism in interventions: addressing and prevents pathologization of normative play while targeting true , supported by findings that not all provocations equate to harm despite institutional tendencies to conflate them under broad anti- frameworks.

Connections to Humor and Play

Teasing frequently overlaps with humor through mechanisms of playful provocation, where individuals violate social expectations in a non-threatening manner to elicit and affiliation. In , teasing behaviors in great apes—such as persistent, one-sided provocations without play signals—indicate deep roots predating human verbal humor, serving to test social bonds and cognitive awareness without escalating to conflict. This aligns with observations that teasing often incorporates elements of surprise and , mirroring humor's reliance on incongruity resolution for . Distinctions emerge between affiliative teasing, which enhances relationships via shared and mutual understanding, and aggressive forms that undermine . Empirical reviews classify teasing as a socialization tool involving commentary on personal attributes, frequently employed in or , where positive intent is signaled through tone or context to maintain playfulness. Studies on further support this, showing affiliative variants—encompassing benign teasing—correlate with stronger and emotional resilience, unlike aggressive humor linked to antagonism. Teasing's ties to play are evident in developmental contexts, where it precedes formal pretend play by involving feigned intent to provoke reactions, aiding acquisition. In children and adolescents, prosocial teasing integrates with rough-and-tumble activities, using verbal or physical cues to demarcate non-seriousness, thereby practicing social negotiation. Across species, this boundary-blurring between play and mild in teasing fosters adaptive skills like impulse control and reciprocity, underscoring its role in behavioral flexibility.

Contemporary Debates and Criticisms

Over-Sensitivity and Pathologization

Critics of contemporary psychological and educational approaches contend that the blanket condemnation of teasing as traumatic fosters , depriving children of essential social calibration experiences that build emotional resilience. Anthropologist Peter Gray argues that in traditional societies, such as groups, teasing serves educative purposes by teaching reciprocity, , and boundary-testing without equating to , yet modern interventions often pathologize these interactions as precursors to . This perspective aligns with evolutionary views positing teasing as an adaptive mechanism for navigating social hierarchies, where over-protection from mild provocations hinders development of skills. Empirical distinctions between prosocial and harmful teasing underscore the risks of pathologization; a 2025 study found playful teasing among friends promotes affiliation and humor comprehension, whereas malicious forms target vulnerabilities like appearance, yet anti-teasing protocols frequently fail to differentiate, amplifying perceived threats. Similarly, research on adolescent teasing reveals that prosocial variants strengthen relational bonds and reduce isolation when reciprocated, but conflating them with correlates with increased anxiety in overly sheltered cohorts. Jonathan Haidt's analysis of "safetyism" critiques institutional biases in academia and schools that prioritize emotional shielding, noting a post-2010s surge in youth diagnoses amid reduced exposure to normative stressors like teasing, potentially inflating fragility rather than addressing root causes. The expansion of harm concepts, termed "" by Nick Haslam, exemplifies pathologization wherein teasing—once viewed as benign banter—is reframed as , heightening sensitivity thresholds without commensurate evidence of widespread trauma from non-malicious instances. Longitudinal data indicate that resilience training incorporating moderated teasing exposure yields better outcomes in than avoidance strategies, challenging narratives that all provocation equates to disorder. Such overreach, often amplified by media and policy without rigorous differentiation, risks toward fragility, as evidenced by declining playground risk-taking alongside rising self-reported distress since the early 2000s.

Individual and Gender Differences

Individual differences in teasing behavior and responses are influenced by personality traits and prior experiences. Individuals low in , characterized by competitiveness and reduced , exhibit a higher propensity for hostile teasing, as this trait correlates with less concern for the target's face or emotional state. The moderate emotional and behavioral reactions to teasing incidents; for instance, participants exposed to teasing in experimental settings showed trait-dependent variations in negativity toward the teaser, with all five domains (including and extraversion) interacting to shape responses such as increased interpersonal discomfort. Frequent teasing history also plays a role, as prior victimization heightens perceptions of teasing as aggressive, leading to stronger negative emotional outcomes like reduced social satisfaction. Conversely, less empathetic individuals or those with conditions like may engage in or interpret teasing more literally and negatively, impairing social navigation. Gender differences emerge primarily in frequency, type, and rather than consistent patterns of . Males demonstrate higher overall teasing frequency across developmental stages and contexts, such as among peers or friends, with studies reporting men initiating up to 48% of teases in social groups. Females, however, endorse stronger attitudes viewing teasing as aggressive and mean-spirited, with women (in a sample of 437) scoring higher on scales measuring such perceptions compared to men (M=2.45 vs. M=2.20, p<.01), potentially reflecting greater sensitivity to relational implications. Men, by contrast, more frequently interpret teasing as affectionate (M=2.57 vs. 2.11, p<.001) or signaling romantic interest (M=2.54 vs. 1.98, p<.001), aligning with patterns where cross- teasing reinforces social boundaries without elevated . Empirical data on appearance-related teasing show mixed results, with some reports of higher incidence among girls but no significant overall disparity in early experiences. These perceptual gaps persist even when controlling for social experiences like , which mitigates negative views more strongly in females. Limited longitudinal data underscore the need for caution in generalizing, as cultural and contextual factors may moderate these trends.

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